Maybe there’s a guy in class you really like a lot but you’re not sure he even knows you exist. Or perhaps there’s one who is kind of shy… and seems like he’d make a good friend. Or one who is really smart who you kind of admire. If they were girls, you’d have no problem starting a conversation… but they’re not….and you can’t. We here at beinggirl remember the feeling. And lucky for you, in the spirit of Saint Valentine, we’d love to share what we’ve learned through the years. Listen up and soon he’ll be listening to you!

Guys like to talk about themselves. All people do. One of the easiest ways to get to know a boy is to ask him questions. You could ask “What did you think of that test this morning?” or ask about some sport he’s interested in. Don’t ask questions that could be answered by yes or no cause then the conversation is over. Music, TV shows and movies are also good topics.

Laughter is contagious. A wise man once said, “Laughter is the best medicine,” and he was right. When you’re happy and laughing, it’s contagious, so don’t be afraid of showing off your sense of humor. If making people laugh is not one of your strengths, search the Internet for jokes or fun anecdotes that you can bring up in conversation.

Don’t be a chatty Cathy. No one likes a chatter box. When we’re nervous we all tend to ramble on but overpowering a conversation and forgetting to ask questions doesn’t show a person you’re interested in hearing about them. Look for clues. If he’s wearing a baseball cap, ask him how his team is doing. If he plays a particular video game, ask about his highest score. These types of questions will definitely instigate a conversation.

Don’t be so focused on impressing him that you’re tempted to lie. While we all tend to embellish the truth a bit, you are much better off being open and honest. Lying about who you are will only come back to haunt you later on. Share the parts of your life that are most rewarding… your friends, your family, and your personal interests. Don’t be afraid to talk about what you do best. It’s not showing off. It’s sharing.

Try flirting. You don’t have to read a book to know how.  It’s easy after you’ve tried it a few times. Flirting is a great way to show someone you’re interested in getting to know them better. It’s harmless and fun. Make eye contact. Offer him a smile. You’ll be surprised how you’ll naturally figure it out!

Get up your courage and move out of your comfort zone. What’s the worst that can happen? There’s not a person alive who hasn’t experienced rejection…and we haven’t heard anyone die from it yet! Get involved in activities you enjoy and conversation will flow. Just make sure the boy you approach is worthy of someone as special as you.