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Added April 23, 2014

Virginity And The Hymen

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When is a girl or woman a virgin and when is she not? You might think the answers are simple, but there is really a lot of confusion in people's minds about it, especially when it comes to virginity and the hymen. The simplest answer is that you are a virgin if you have not had intercourse; but it turns out that the exact definition of intercourse varies from one person to the next. Intercourse takes place when a penis penetrates the vagina beyond the hymen. So what do you need to know about virginity and the hymen?

 

The most common image people have of the hymen is that it is a solid membrane stretched across the vagina. Think about that for a minute. If it is a solid membrane, how would menstrual flow get out? Some very well-educated young people say, "Well, it must be a semi-permeable membrane." WRONG. The hymen is NOT a closed membrane.

 

Where is the hymen? About half of the U.S. population gets that answer wrong too. They think the hymen is kind of deep inside the vagina. In fact, it is right at the opening to the vagina, which explains confusion about virginity and the hymen.

 

The hymen is just some pinkish tissue, a bit ruffled in shape, that NARROWS the vaginal opening, but does not close it off altogether. As a matter of fact, in some girls the hymen may be stretched or torn during childhood from activities such as ballet, bicycle riding, or gymnastics; and therefore, virginity and the hymen aren't necessarily related. In the vast majority of girls, the opening of the hymen will allow easy insertion of a tampon.

 

The first time a girl or woman has sexual intercourse the tissue of the hymen will either stretch or it may tear a bit in one or two places. Often there is NO BLEEDING and little or no pain. Do you lose your virginity and the hymen disappears? The hymen does not disappear; you have it all your life. When you are having a "pelvic" or "gyn" exam, you can ask to be shown your hymen in a mirror or you may be able to see it on your own. Often, even a gynecologist would not be able to tell just by looking whether or not you have had intercourse. Are you amazed by all this? Most people are because there are so many myths about virginity and the hymen.

 

Now you may understand that virginity and hymen are not the same. Virginity is not a simple matter of anatomy. Maybe we'd all be better-off thinking of virginity in more personal, even psychological terms.

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SadieGay572
SadieGay572
Posted September 07, 2014
Now I kind of understand the idea of losing your virginity. I've always thought it disappears after you have sex for the first time
twinklegirl
twinklegirl
Posted August 12, 2014
finally understand this concept now
Julietta1997
Julietta1997
Posted August 12, 2014
I'm a proud to hear you all talking about staying virgins until you are married, but I also want to tell you to not feel pressured to remain a virgin. Personally, I think that once you are in a committed relationship, you should do it if you want to. Sex is a special thing, but it doesn't always have to be reserved for marriage. Just make sure you are old enough, mature enough, ready, and are certain the guy you do it with is special.
Janeknowsbest
Janeknowsbest
Posted August 12, 2014
It looks like there are a lot of very confused girls in the comment section here. I will try to do my best to make things clear. Every girl is different. The way that someone else feels about virginity and sex may be completely opposite to the way you feel. For me, sex turned out to be not that big of a deal. In my mind I had built it up to be such a big deal that afterwards I expected to feel something profound, but I didn't. I didn't feel like something was missing or that I had done something wrong, I just felt the same. Most of my friends felt that way too. The sex itself was painful, but nothing to stress about. Overall, just make sure you are ready, because this is a decision that you should feel good about making, sot something you should regret.
Becemm
Becemm
Posted July 29, 2014
Okay I would just like to say that first off, I am very confused. I used to think that a virgin was a state. Also, i always thought that a hymen was a religious song. Hmmm. Jimbo has not been teaching me well. At first I was really confused, but after I read this article, everything got cleared up. I now know that losing you virginity means to have sexual intercourse. I lost my virginity when I was 7 at a Hannah Montana concert. It was really a really snazzy night. Wahoooooo. Thanks beinggirl!! <3
Posted July 24, 2014
First of all, I'm soo proud of the way some of yall stood up for abstinence! Sex is a VERY special bond, once you e given yourself away like that you can never give it back, for the rest of your life you'll have an extremely intimate relationship with that person. What better person to share an intimate relationship with than the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with!? I pledged my purity 4 years ago, and I'm still going strong! I've been put in a position where sex seemed lime a possibly, but even now at 16, I am so glad I waited, and continue to do so! Stay strong! PS... It is super annoying when people purposely spell words wrong... Invest in a dictionary or something please!
AFRICANpink
AFRICANpink
Posted May 30, 2014
I''ve never torn my hymen before but I'm still wondering if I have even if I've never had bleding or pains
latina_chick
latina_chick
Posted April 21, 2014
It does hurt. Alot
Sidni79687
Sidni79687
Posted April 28, 2014
My friend at school...shes like had sex so many times. And im just there like yep I like guys but I don't know what a hymen is. I know what virginity is but I don't know what hymen is can someone help me?
Kittylove2014
Kittylove2014
Posted January 25, 2014
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