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Added April 23, 2014

Virginity And The Hymen

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When is a girl or woman a virgin and when is she not? You might think the answers are simple, but there is really a lot of confusion in people's minds about it, especially when it comes to virginity and the hymen. The simplest answer is that you are a virgin if you have not had intercourse; but it turns out that the exact definition of intercourse varies from one person to the next. Intercourse takes place when a penis penetrates the vagina beyond the hymen. So what do you need to know about virginity and the hymen?


The most common image people have of the hymen is that it is a solid membrane stretched across the vagina. Think about that for a minute. If it is a solid membrane, how would menstrual flow get out? Some very well-educated young people say, "Well, it must be a semi-permeable membrane." WRONG. The hymen is NOT a closed membrane.


Where is the hymen? About half of the U.S. population gets that answer wrong too. They think the hymen is kind of deep inside the vagina. In fact, it is right at the opening to the vagina, which explains confusion about virginity and the hymen.


The hymen is just some pinkish tissue, a bit ruffled in shape, that NARROWS the vaginal opening, but does not close it off altogether. As a matter of fact, in some girls the hymen may be stretched or torn during childhood from activities such as ballet, bicycle riding, or gymnastics; and therefore, virginity and the hymen aren't necessarily related. In the vast majority of girls, the opening of the hymen will allow easy insertion of a tampon.


The first time a girl or woman has sexual intercourse the tissue of the hymen will either stretch or it may tear a bit in one or two places. Often there is NO BLEEDING and little or no pain. Do you lose your virginity and the hymen disappears? The hymen does not disappear; you have it all your life. When you are having a "pelvic" or "gyn" exam, you can ask to be shown your hymen in a mirror or you may be able to see it on your own. Often, even a gynecologist would not be able to tell just by looking whether or not you have had intercourse. Are you amazed by all this? Most people are because there are so many myths about virginity and the hymen.


Now you may understand that virginity and hymen are not the same. Virginity is not a simple matter of anatomy. Maybe we'd all be better-off thinking of virginity in more personal, even psychological terms.

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Posted May 30, 2014
I''ve never torn my hymen before but I'm still wondering if I have even if I've never had bleding or pains
Posted April 28, 2014
My friend at school...shes like had sex so many times. And im just there like yep I like guys but I don't know what a hymen is. I know what virginity is but I don't know what hymen is can someone help me?
Posted October 02, 2013
that looks like it hurts so bad im not doing that sh** when i dont have to just yet does anyone else have a bf thats trying to make your life pure hell and youre trying to get rid of him but he is clinging to you i need advice for my friend i dont know what to tell her and her hearts broken but i love her like a sister and i really wanna help please help me help ha thanks in advance
Posted April 21, 2014
It does hurt. Alot
Posted January 25, 2014
tore what Peacockgurll
Posted October 30, 2013
I'm scared of having sex when I get older now!! :( me+bleeding= throwing up :I if I read or hear or even see blood (movies included) I get REALLY sick :O
Posted July 28, 2013
I tore mine riding my bike......I hit a curb.
Posted September 22, 2013
I tore mine when I went swimming. I was gonna jump off the edge of the pool, then I slipped and did the splits. Then it tore open. It hurt SUPERbad
Posted July 23, 2013
Can anyone help me out? If a guy fingers you or his penis enters you, do it hurt at all? and what about any discharge? Is there a specific way to clean your vagina so its better to fingered or when he eats you out? PLEASE HELP! THANKS!
Posted July 30, 2013
Yo @justanothergirl332, no it does not hurt from wut I heard it tickles said my mom
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