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Added April 23, 2014

Sexual Harassment In School

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Sexual harassment in school is rampant with about 80% of the students admitting to being a victim at one time or another. Nice kids from nice homes are as vulnerable as anyone else. Even when told about sexual harassment in school, teachers tend to say things like, "It's no big deal. Boys will be boys. He just likes you." Or worse, "You're not hurt. They must be doing it for a reason. What did you do to make him act that way?" It's no wonder that many kids never speak up, embarrassed, afraid of being ridiculed, convinced that somehow what happened must be their fault.


The statistics are disturbing. A third of high-school students fear sexual harassment in school. More than a quarter report they often experience sexual harassment in school. Over 60% of physical and non-physical harassment happens in front of teachers. And this doesn't count the hundreds of thousands of teens who, upon entering the make-believe world of the Internet, have received unwelcome e-mails with inappropriate sexual content.


What is sexual harassment?
If a guy tells you a dirty joke or makes a sexual comment about how you look ("You look hot today") or tries to snap your bra strap, is that sexual harassment? Only you know the answer. Harassment makes you feel unsafe and powerless. The stress might make your stomach upset or your head hurt. You might feel sad or angry or demeaned. Trust your gut. You will never confuse a remark which chips away at your self-esteem with a compliment.


How does harassment differ from flirting?
Flirting is fun and makes you feel happy. It is flattering and welcome and boosts your self-esteem. Flirting centers around a sense of equality. There is nothing threatening or lewd or uncomfortable about flirting.


What are the forms sexual harassment in school can take?
Most important to remember is that it is YOUR perception of these behaviors that counts, not whether a boy "meant" to harass you. You might be uncertain at first if he blocks your path or whistles or pressures you mildly to date. But you'll definitely be sure if any of these actions were involved.

  1. Waiting and following you to and from school
  2. Any kind of threatening notes, calls, stares
  3. Grabbing, shoving, touching, groping
  4. Demanding details of your personal life
  5. Sending or leaving pornographic material
  6. Exposing themselves or cornering you
  7. Spreading false sexual rumors
  8. Writing any personalized graffiti


What can you do?
If you are ever faced with sexual harassment in school, recognize that you have the right to do something about it. If you ignore it, it might convey that this kind of behavior is acceptable. Be clear that in no way are you to blame. Try to have witnesses when you confront the individual. Ideally, state very clearly that you don't appreciate this behavior. Say, "I don't like what you're doing. Don't do it again." That's ideal. If that's too hard, don't feel you have to face an uncomfortable situation alone. Reach out to your parents, counselors, trusted teachers, or another authority figure for help. Sexual harassment in school, or anywhere else for that matter, is not acceptable.

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Posted June 30, 2014
Your kidding right!? When your being SH they boy doing it won't listen to you if you say "Stop, don't do that again" what are we in 3rd grade?? You need to tell someone like a principal or the police. Verbal retaliation probably won't work, their sexual monsters, they won't listen to you.
Posted May 30, 2014
I have been sexually harassed myself by toe boys when they talked a bout my upstairs private and trust it's not fun but lady's make sure you speak up this has happened to me and every other girl out there to much the sickos who are doing this are perverts so don't be afraid to speak up
Posted March 29, 2014
If your getting harassed then you should tell your parents or the guidance consider at school.Let them take care of the issue. And if a boy that you don't like still messes with you then go straight to the principal of your school.They can help you alot.Good luck.
Posted March 01, 2014
well not sure if this counts I suppose it does this boy is just standing there talking to his friend and the whole time NOT LOOKING AT HIS FRIEND(im standing across from him) and hes just staring at my chest... NOBDY NOTICES except me wth! so the other day my friend told me one of the boys (I think there is something mentally wrong with him or hes juts weird) SHOWED UP OUTSIDE HER HOUSE like stalking her k nonetheless im scared of him now sorry for bad spelling im typing fast >.<
Posted August 20, 2013
I am bullied in school, I told the dean and he didn't do anything about. I had a fight with her and she pounched and I couldn't do anything about. Any advise
Posted December 22, 2013
I am harassed all the time at school(my friends dont).
Posted August 10, 2013
I've never been SH before but I am going I to middle school on Monday and I'm scared I will by some 8th graders or 7th graders. Please help! And to all the girls that have been SH I am so sorry! But us girls r fighters and we r strong! May GOD be w u all!??
Posted August 10, 2013
What exactly is snapping a bra strap. I wanna know so I know if it happens to me to tell somebody!??
Posted July 25, 2013
if u r being bulled in school its because the bully is gelus of say nice things about the bully and they might leave u alone. hoped i helped.:) :)
Posted August 08, 2013
thanku soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much being girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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