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Self-confidence comes from within...Learn how to think (and say) something nice
"Every time the teacher calls on me in class, even when I know the answer, I freeze
up," says Amy. "My voice is pathetic, and I hate how wimpy I sound. Once I start,
I go on too long, giving everyone ample opportunity to catch the huge crater on
"I was sitting with about ten other kids waiting to see the owner of a day camp
about a job as a counselor," remembers Vicki. "My heart was beating so loud, my
palms were so sweaty, that I felt like a freak. This was a job I knew I could do.
I have four younger brothers and sisters. I love little kids. But it took all my
control not to run right out of there."
"I could understand feeling that nauseous and nervous if I was trying out for the
lead in the play, or I was asking out the cutest boy in school, but all I was doing
was raising my hand and offering a way to raise money for some new gym equipment,"
sighs Julie. "I just sat there, letting Miss Know-It- All get credit for an idea
that wasn't anywhere near as good as mine. I hated myself for a week."
Leaders have self-confidence. So do great athletes. And probably the friends you
admire the most. "It" is self-confidence, the ability to know and accept your strengths
and limitations without depending on the opinions of those around you. If you think
you're alone in envying those with a "Look out world, here I am," attitude, take
heart. We fear lots of stuff: snakes, crime, natural disasters,
and being unprepared when our period comes. But it's been documented that the two
greatest fears we have are meeting strangers and standing up to speak in front of
a group. And to do this, you need self-confidence, which is easier said
For too many of us it's easier to run a marathon than say something nice about ourselves. It's
some crazy notion that only stuck up, full of themselves people can find something
positive to say. Think of the confident people you know. Isn't it their self confidence,
as much as their ideas and
reassures you they know what they're doing? For
those times the limelight is near and you feel you need a lifeline, try:
Visualizing yourself as you wish you
would be. How would you act if you weren't shy? What would you say if you felt confident?
Picture yourself talking with self-confidence and then follow that behavior.
Writing down everything you're anxious
about beforehand...I'll make a fool out of myself, people
will think less of me, I'll fail...then afterward, see if any of your worries came
to pass. Chances are you'll see all your angst was a waste of energy and improve
your self confidence.
Chanting these mantras or at least posting
them around your room: SUCCESS IS 99% FAILURE. IF YOU THINK YOU CAN, YOU CAN. IF
YOU THINK YOU CAN'T, YOU CAN'T, and the all-important 10 most powerful two-letter
words, IF IT IS TO BE, IT IS UP TO ME.
Taking a deep breath and asking for
a moment to focus. Then do your best to avoid looking around to see who is looking
Avoiding caffeine, carbohydrates, and
sugar before your big moment. Protein will help keep your energy at an even level.
Remembering all the great people who
regained faith in themselves after being told they didn't
have what it takes to succeed.
Self Confidence Idols
Einstein was four years old before he could speak. Isaac Newton did so poorly
in school, his teachers considered him "Unpromising." Beethoven's music teacher
rated him "hopeless." Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball
Walt Disney was fired for "a lack of imagination." Winston Churchill failed sixth
grade because he didn't complete the tests required for promotion. Abraham
Lincoln failed in business twice; was defeated eight times for public office, and
had a nervous breakdown before becoming our greatest president.
Read about teenage self confidence and learn how to improve your self-image at BeingGirl.com.