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Added April 23, 2014

Get a Self-Confidence Boost!

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Self-confidence comes from within...Learn how to think (and say) something nice about yourself

"Every time the teacher calls on me in class, even when I know the answer, I freeze up," says Amy. "My voice is pathetic, and I hate how wimpy I sound. Once I start, I go on too long, giving everyone ample opportunity to catch the huge crater on my forehead."

"I was sitting with about ten other kids waiting to see the owner of a day camp about a job as a counselor," remembers Vicki. "My heart was beating so loud, my palms were so sweaty, that I felt like a freak. This was a job I knew I could do. I have four younger brothers and sisters. I love little kids. But it took all my control not to run right out of there."

"I could understand feeling that nauseous and nervous if I was trying out for the lead in the play, or I was asking out the cutest boy in school, but all I was doing was raising my hand and offering a way to raise money for some new gym equipment," sighs Julie. "I just sat there, letting Miss Know-It- All get credit for an idea that wasn't anywhere near as good as mine. I hated myself for a week."

Leaders have self-confidence. So do great athletes. And probably the friends you admire the most. "It" is self-confidence, the ability to know and accept your strengths and limitations without depending on the opinions of those around you. If you think you're alone in envying those with a "Look out world, here I am," attitude, take heart. We fear lots of stuff: snakes, crime, natural disasters, and being unprepared when our period comes. But it's been documented that the two greatest fears we have are meeting strangers and standing up to speak in front of a group. And to do this, you need self-confidence, which is easier said than done.

For too many of us it's easier to run a marathon than say something nice about ourselves. It's some crazy notion that only stuck up, full of themselves people can find something positive to say. Think of the confident people you know. Isn't it their self confidence, as much as their ideas and ability, that reassures you they know what they're doing? For those times the limelight is near and you feel you need a lifeline, try:

  • Visualizing yourself as you wish you would be. How would you act if you weren't shy? What would you say if you felt confident? Picture yourself talking with self-confidence and then follow that behavior.
  • Writing down everything you're anxious about beforehand...I'll make a fool out of myself, people will think less of me, I'll fail...then afterward, see if any of your worries came to pass. Chances are you'll see all your angst was a waste of energy and improve your self confidence.
  • Chanting these mantras or at least posting them around your room: SUCCESS IS 99% FAILURE. IF YOU THINK YOU CAN, YOU CAN. IF YOU THINK YOU CAN'T, YOU CAN'T, and the all-important 10 most powerful two-letter words, IF IT IS TO BE, IT IS UP TO ME.
  • Taking a deep breath and asking for a moment to focus. Then do your best to avoid looking around to see who is looking at you.
  • Avoiding caffeine, carbohydrates, and sugar before your big moment. Protein will help keep your energy at an even level.
  • Remembering all the great people who regained faith in themselves after being told they didn't have what it takes to succeed.

Self Confidence Idols

  • Einstein was four years old before he could speak.
  • Isaac Newton did so poorly in school, his teachers considered him "Unpromising."
  • Beethoven's music teacher rated him "hopeless."
  • Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team.
  • Walt Disney was fired for "a lack of imagination."
  • Winston Churchill failed sixth grade because he didn't complete the tests required for promotion.
  • Abraham Lincoln failed in business twice; was defeated eight times for public office, and had a nervous breakdown before becoming our greatest president.

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Posted August 25, 2014
i used to be a very shy person but one class one friend changed all that
Posted March 29, 2014
I'm not shy to speak in public but I'm shy to meet people, kinda odd but I'm working towards my shyness meeting people
Posted January 16, 2014
I am really shy and only have one best friend. She's been my friend since 1st grade. Everyday, since i have no friends at MY school I always look like a loser with no friends. But i'm going to a new school next year and hopefully i'll make new friends :)
Posted April 29, 2013
Being me is hard. I don't get bullied to my face, but I have been called an ogre behind my back. I overheard a comment about how I looked ugly and fat like Fiona off of Shrek. I am not happy with my appearance. I don't know how I can get past it. Every time I walk by a "popular" person, I feel alone. Like there is nobody there for me. I don't tell anyone why I'm so quiet in school, and why I am self conscious. Why I don't go to people's parties. I even feel alone and scared when I talk to my friends sometimes. I basically have no self confidence, and I know I need to stop judging myself so harshly. But it is hard when you can't tell anybody why you are shy in the first place.
Posted March 08, 2013
I'm very shy in school, I only talk to my friends... I really like fashion and beauty, I like the unique things most... But I'm too afraid to wear any of it... So lately i've been getting my friends to wear bright coloured lipstick, or things like that with me, so I feel less alone! :) Hope this helps any of you! <3 :)
Posted October 28, 2013
So whenever I get a new/improved attitude my 17 year old sister makes fun of me and takes my mascara that I pay for, she is a bed bug I can not get out of my bed!!!!!
Posted February 17, 2013
I'm just a shy loner. No one likes me because I'm not talkive. =(
XO, K. Johnson
XO, K. Johnson
Posted February 17, 2013
wow never knew that about abe lincoln
Posted February 17, 2013
I tell myself I'm not pretty everyday because all the other girls at school come to school with nice clothes and stuff while I have clothes with stains, holes, and tears. I need help having confidence in myself.
Posted February 25, 2013
I'm shy too. I really don't have much friends. Just one best friend, but I don't know if she's loyal...:'(
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