Adults

The first person you have puberty talk with should be an adult, because someone your own age may not have their facts straight, even if they think they do. It's important for you to get the right answers to your questions.

It's great if you and your mother or some other adult have already talked about lots of stuff. Then, asking questions is a piece of cake. But in some families, talking about the body is limited to what to eat and how to take care of your teeth. Most girls need to get up their courage. They may feel awkward and embarrassed. That's perfectly normal, but don't let that stop you from talking to someone, because talking to someone about what you feel (whether it's fear, worry, happiness, or confusion) is a big relief and a comfort.

Friends and relatives

In many families, there may be someone instead of a mother who you feel more comfortable with, such as your stepmother, father, a grandma, aunt, or older sister. Some girls talk with a teacher, the school nurse, or their doctor. Others may know a friend's mother who's easy to talk to.

Timing is everything

Once you decide who to talk to, you'll want to choose the right time. For example, if you want to ask your mother, wait for a time when she isn't busy doing other things. If your mother seems to be busy all the time, you may want to say, "Mom, there's something I'd like to talk to you about when you have time." This way, you won't keep putting off the discussion. You are the best judge of how to talk to the people in your life, but this may be one way to approach the subject. We suggest that before you have the conversation, you first write down your questions. This way, you won't forget any. However you do it, both of you are likely to feel glad you talked.

NOTE: If you can't imagine talking to any of the adults in your life, it will be even more important to educate yourself. Here are some ways you can consult the experts when you have questions: