Just Like Mom: How to Talk to Mom About Puberty
When you were a little kid, you shared everything with your mom. But lately, there's
more stuff you want to keep private or just feel awkward asking her. You may have
questions you feel she can't answer, and you may feel less open to talking to mom
than ever before. Then again, maybe you and your mom are closer than ever, and there's
nothing you can't talk about.
Whatever your relationship is like, there's one thing for sure. You and your mom
have a lot in common. Just being a female puts you in a special category with all
When you have questions about puberty or just growing up in general, you may start
turning more to your friends and other great resources (like BeingGirl!) than to
your mom. But here's a big secret: No matter how alike or different you and your
mom are from one another, your mom was a girl once, too! You probably have questions
just like she did when she was your age. She also went through what you're going
through now, so she can be a great resource.
Girl Stuff: Feminine Products You and Your Mom Have in Common
There are some products made just for women that you and your mom may both use.
From deodorant and hair removal to feminine protection — there are products made
for females, and chances are your mom and even your mom’s mom use them today. Your
mom can help you with how to use them and picking out the right ones for you, but
here’s some info to get your started:
Deodorant was invented in the late
1800s. It’s applied to the underarms and it helps reduce body odor. You can also
use an antiperspirant to help reduce sweating Gillette created the first razor just for women in the early 1900s. Razors help
remove unwanted hair in places like your legs and armpits.
For feminine protection, pads have been used since around 1900 and Tampax tampons
were introduced in 1936. Pads can also be referred to as sanitary napkins, sanitary
pads, menstrual pads or maxi pads. Both pads and tampons absorb the menstrual blood
released during your period and are disposable and come in different types. Pads
are placed on the inside of your underwear while tampons are inserted in your body.
Hey, Mom! Let's Talk
Your mom may have decades of experience with the all changes women can go through,
but there's one area that may be new to her: Bringing up puberty and talking about
it with you.
Well, now that you're becoming a woman just like your mom, take charge of the situation
and begin the conversation yourself! Not sure how? Here are some key conversation
“Mom, your legs look so nice and smooth.
I think I'm ready to shave mine, too. Can you show me how?”
“How old were you when you first got your period?”
“Your deodorant smells nice. Can I get one for myself?”
“Can we go to the store together? I need your advice on some girl stuff.”
“Mom, when you were in school, did you
ever feel out of place (or different, or however you're feeling now)?”
Wondering when a good time is to start talking about being just like mom? Bring
it up when you're in the middle of doing something together — in the car, out in
the yard, walking around the mall or washing dishes. Keep it casual, not too serious.
Talking with your mom about growing up and becoming a woman can be comfortable and
easy! You'll learn a lot and it'll bring you closer together. Then, the next time
you talk with your friends, you'll have the real scoop to share.
Have you had a good conversation with your mom about growing up or puberty? Talk
about it in the comments section below!
Did you grow up wanting to be just like mom? Show your love for mom with tips at BeingGirl.com.