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Added September 25, 2014

Problems Inserting Tampons

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Are you having difficulty inserting a tampon for the first time? Have you had trouble putting a tampon in your vagina because it just doesn't seem to want to go in and/or it HURTS when you try? If you've had this experience, by now you're probably scared to try again because you feel stupid, are scared of the pain, or think you must be built funny down there and just can't use tampons. Join the club; there are legions of you out there and ALL of you CAN learn to use tampons comfortably. Use the guide below to learn about properly inserting a tampon.



Some girls have "extra" tissue that can interfere with inserting tampons. This is called a septate hymen; the "string" of tissue down the center is called a "strand." If you have a hymenal strand, it can make it difficult and painful to put in a tampon. But the strand is usually somewhat flexible and some girls manage to get a tampon past it on one side or the other. Then, there may be trouble getting it out. If this should happen to you, it may be best to see a medical professional rather than try to force the tampon out. Girls who have a strand and still force a tampon out tell us that they experienced a sharp pain and saw drops of bright red blood; they tore the strand.


This is not really terrible, but it can be frightening. In fact, it can be so frightening that, even though the strand is no longer a barrier, these girls often find they still have trouble inserting a tampon. How frustrating! What can the problem be now?


The problem now is, almost surely, that the girl's vaginal muscles are tensing up involuntarily and essentially closing off the opening to the vagina. The technical term for this is VAGINISMUS. When a girl is afraid that inserting something in her vagina will hurt, a signal goes to the muscles at the vaginal opening and makes those muscles contract. The girl doesn't know this is happening. She doesn't really feel anything. She only knows that she can't seem to get a tampon in.


Vaginismus is quite common in girls and young women. Having problems with a strand is not the only cause. Anything that makes a girl fearful about vaginal insertion can cause it. For example, having injured yourself anywhere "down there," having experienced painful medical procedures in the area, or simply believing that you are much too small for a tampon to fit inside can lead to vaginismus.


How can vaginismus be overcome? The bad news is that you can't usually talk yourself out of it. You might think you could will yourself to let those muscles relax, but they can be kind of stubborn. It's as if the muscles need convincing by experience. Some medical professionals know all about vaginismus and know how to help you but, sadly, too many aren't that well-informed. You will probably need to ask your mother or other adult for help in finding a doctor or other health-care practitioner who knows how to treat a girl who has trouble inserting tampons because of vaginismus. You will be given instructions in a step-wise approach that you will do at home. The treatment will teach your muscles to relax when you go to insert a tampon. Don't worry that the treatment will be painful. Quite the contrary; you will be told that you must NOT hurt yourself, since the idea is to teach you to feel assured there will be NO pain. The good news is that with a step-wise approach to treatment, vaginismus can be cured 99.9% of the time.


If you or your parents feel that you are not ready to try medical treatment, you can always use external menstrual protection until you are older. In the meantime, remember this rule of thumb; never allow any vaginal penetration or attempts at penetration that are painful. You want to end the association, in your mind, between penetration and pain and fear. Eventually you will become a pro at inserting tampons that you will wonder why it ever seemed difficult.

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After washing your hands, open the wrapper and remove the tampon. If using a Tampax Pearl Compak tampon, gently pull out the inner tube (toward the end of the removal string) until it comes to a stop.
Either sit on the toilet with your knees wide apart or stand with one leg on the toilet. Remember to RELAX—try taking a few deep breaths if you need to.
Use one hand to hold the tampon at the bottom of the outer tube. Place the rounded tip of the tampon to your vaginal opening and point the tip toward your lower back. The removal string should be facing away from your body.
Take a few breaths and gently twist the applicator back and forth into the vagina, directing it toward your lower back. As soon as your fingers touch your body, the applicator is in the right place.
While holding the outer tube of the applicator, push the smaller tube with your pointer finger all the way into the bigger tube until it stops. As you’re doing this, tampon slides out of the applicator and into your vagina. If it’s uncomfortable, the tampon is likely inserted incorrectly or not inserted all the way in—you should remove it and start over with a new one.
With the tampon comfortably inside you (and the removal string hanging outside your body), carefully remove the applicator, place it in the tampon’s wrapper, and throw it in the trash. Then wash your hands.
Don’t forget to remove the tampon before inserting a new one. When it is time to remove it, pull the string downwards at the same angle you used to insert the tampon. You can either flush the used tampon down the toilet or wrap it in tissue paper and put it in the trash.

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Posted June 23, 2014
Thank you,, for furthering my fear of inserting a tampon. I took a mirror down there and guess what? I have a hymenal strand. I clicked on this article to try and calm myself about using tampons. I might have been extremely scared before, but now I am petrified. Thanks /so/ much for telling me what a painful and horrifying experience I will most likely have. Keep up the good work.
Posted July 04, 2013
@Runner girl, I just strated using tampons and the first time I tried it happen tome too. Try doing it at a differnt angle. Once I did it went right in. Good luck! :)
Posted April 29, 2013
I started my period 1 and a halfmonths ago. im 14 i feel fine and comfotable using tampons but i hate the pad . during my big essay i leaked! and ruined my sweatpants right in class and ihad to sit and wait to change into gym shorts forever istarted using a tampon just yesturday and im comfortable using them its just whenever i put them in my "area" i do it correctly itjust always feels uncomfortbale! any help ...xoxo
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Posted February 17, 2013
I second that. Me and my sister bought one of the Vagi-Wave for tampon training and it was ace. We used it for the 3 weeks and when we came to the BIG DAY we both just did it with no hassle. I and my sister can only say this, without the Vagi-Wave trying to get tampons is right first or second even third time when having a period would have been a real nasty messy job. Vagi-Wave is the way to go, to be honest it is going to come in handy for other female things as we go through life. Brilliant Brilliant Product. Personally, I think owning a Vagi-Wave is going to be the must have thing. It is for me and my sister, and we can't thank our mom enought for getting us each one of these for Xmas. Mom you rock :) Vagi-Wave you are AMAZING xxx
Posted July 03, 2013
I tried using a tampon today, and it hurt and felt really uncomfortable. I am 16, and just started my period yesterday, but I hate pads so much Please help me!!
Posted November 25, 2012
sometime you need to train yourself to use a tampon. One useful site is Theres plenty of info there
Posted May 18, 2012
@Flipflop2468 I have the same problem , i hate wearing pads , i've tried using a tampon once & it wouldn't go in .
Posted July 05, 2012
I'm not totally sure where to put the tampon!! My vagina is so small that it's really hard to find. Or maybe the hymen is covering it up :( Has anyone has this problem? What should I do? HELP!
Posted May 13, 2012
Summer is coming and I am on a swim team. But I still have not figured how to get a tampon in. I hate the feel I pads when I am on my period an would love to use tampons but they will not go in and you can't swim in a pad. Does anyone have this problem too?
Posted July 25, 2012
i dont have dont have a problem with tampons its jjust the way they feel inside of u its just not conterable idk????
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