What Can Make Having the Period Chat Easier? Dear BeingGirl Experts, This is J.J.L.L., and I am a little scared about having my first period because I am afraid that I will be scared. I have been reading some of your letters and I am having some whitish slime kind of fluid come out of me. I am only 11 and about to turn 12 this May. What should I do when I have it ? I am scared to tell my mom because I am afraid she will get scared. Do you think I should use a tampon on my first? I'm so glad I read some of your letters because I thought that that whitish stuff was a symptom of TSS. When I have my first period, I don't want to let my little sister find out because I know she will ask me a lot of questions. She did that when I started wearing my first bra. I want to start talking to my mom about this, but I am a little bit chicken. I don't want her to think I am growing up because she said I will always be her little baby. And every night before I go to bed I come in the living room and sit in her lap. I love my dad very much and when I have it I don't want my mom to tell him because it will embarrass me. I have been going through mood swings lately with my friends, and I don't want them to know I am going through puberty. My life is all about growing up and changing, but I don't want to grow up. I am a little nervous, but I am glad I have someone to talk to like you. One more question: what is a gynecologist and when do I have to go one? And what do the three booster shots do? (Please answer back soon cause I am about to go bananas.) Yours Truly, J.J.L.L. --- Dear J.J.L.L., Your mom would be so happy if you asked her about puberty and menstruation. All us moms want to keep our babies, but we all realize that babies grow up, and you are growing up. Your mom will not be scared if you tell her about your whitish discharge. She probably is expecting you to start menstruating soon, especially if she has already bought you a bra. If you can't start talking to mom, write her a letter like the one you wrote to me. Leave it somewhere that only she will find it, like in her underwear drawer. If you want some info before you talk to her read the info on this site under "Puberty and Periods." It will give you lots of answers so that if your little sister wants to know something, you will be able to explain it to her. I'm glad we can be of assistance, but Mom is the best person to talk to about this. Good luck, BeingGirl Experts Questions about having the period chat? Get answers, tips, and advice at BeingGirl.com.