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Added August 01, 2013

Parents And Boyfriends

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You think that he's the greatest thing since sliced bread. He sends your heart fluttering every time that you see him. You want to spend every possible moment with him. You don't understand—how can your parents not like him?

 

If your parents are like thousands of parents, they may not like the person you're dating. Remember it's difficult for them to deal with your emerging sexuality. They just want to protect you and keep you safe and happy. So put yourself in your parent's shoes to figure out why they have a problem with your guy.

 

Parents and BoyfriendsThere's a big age difference

If you're 14 and the guy is 25, then your parents are right and have the law on their side. A relationship between an adult man and a developing teenager is totally inappropriate. If the difference is a year or two, reassure your parents by explaining what you two have in common, and that you're mature enough to not let him pressure you.

 

Parents and BoyfriendsThey hate the way he dresses, his piercing, or his tattoo

Styles have changed big time since your parents were young when tattoos were for sailors. Accept that your parents will hate the way every guy you date dresses, and instead point out his good features: he's a computer whiz, or he's had his poetry published.

 

Parents and BoyfriendsYou spend every waking moment with him.

Your parents think he may be controlling you or that you're "missing out. Let them know you're making time for your friends or that your choice of colleges is strictly yours. Assure them that there are other things in your life besides this guy.

 

Parents and BoyfriendsYou're in an interracial relationship

Your parents are probably projecting the interracial dating problems of their generation on you. Let them know that times have changed and at least your part of the world is a more accepting place.

 

Parents and BoyfriendsHe does drugs or abuses you

You have no room to disagree, and you should get out of this relationship...NOW.

 

Parents and BoyfriendsWhat you can do

Here are some things you can do to help your parents change their minds about your guy. 

Don't sneak

You'll just reinforce their beliefs that they can't trust you and you can't handle grown-up situations. 

Respect your curfew

Be home when your parents want you home. Over time they'll see that you and he can be trusted. 

Plan an event at your house

Invite your guy to dinner or to watch a movie. Let your parents see first-hand that your guy is wonderful and treats you well. 

Give your parents time.

Take the relationship slowly, and give them time to adjust. If he's the great guy you say he is, they'll come around.

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Diver
Diver
Posted June 07, 2014
Really like this guy but were 2 years apart. Is that too big? I'm in HS and he's in JH.
DValue
DValue
Posted April 19, 2014
I have to wait till im atleast 15 years old -.- 2 more years dow ;)
Katie12975
Katie12975
Posted July 16, 2012
Today my boyfriend is going to my little sisters pool party and i have to tell my parents about a tatoo he has on his chest for the first time so thank you so much for this. My parents are very strict, hope this works!!!!!!
Lucky4ever
Lucky4ever
Posted August 16, 2012
I dont have a bf yet but i have 2 brothers and 1 sister and they started dating and they didnt tell my parents but like through out the years my parents didnt really care about us having a relationship.they usually meet him/her and then figure out were dating and they just ask so its pretty easy for me
gonewild
gonewild
Posted July 05, 2012
my dad wont budge at all like him and my mama are like 4 months apart thats it and the boy i love is 2 1/2 years older than me!!! what do i do cause like my dad doesnt like him at all and thats his only reason not to like him cause he is loving, but respectful and nice and believes in what i believe and encourages to do things that i believe i want to do. But my parents still dont like him and he can protect me... what do i do?????
HungerGamesLuv.74
HungerGamesLuv.74
Posted August 05, 2012
It's so unfair. My sibling is in a relationship and is in 8th grade. Then, when I ask how old I have to be, the answer is 16. So unfair!
PrittyKitty#1
PrittyKitty#1
Posted November 06, 2011
my mom has met him like @ basketbell games and football games and shes met his mom and his parents met me they love me ( i think ) but i dont know if my daddy will like him as much as my mom did but this helped on talking to my dad i needed something like this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thnx love always prittykitty#1 <3
Pikachu12
Pikachu12
Posted May 24, 2012
my rents think my bf is pretty cool. he is so respectful and polite! <3
amber <3
amber <3
Posted January 05, 2012
i've done some of that, and it actually helps alot, thanks!
KittyKat<3
KittyKat<3
Posted December 31, 2011
This is some really good advice. When I get a boyfriend, I'l remember this. The only problem is my dad is a freak and he can be really scary... ;;
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