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Added November 21, 2011

No Longer Friends

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Naomi and Shannon were best friends since the fifth grade. Then they started high school. Shannon liked to write so she joined the newspaper staff as a freshman. Naomi was happy for Shannon, but then Shannon got really busy, covering school athletic events and hanging out with other students on the staff. Naomi understood, but she noticed that even when Shannon wasn't busy, she didn't make an effort to see Naomi. They were no longer friends.

Has this happened to you? Drifting apart from friends is hard, no matter who's doing the drifting. So it's normal to feel upset. Here are some things you can do when you and your best friend are no longer friends:

No Longer Friends Tip: If your best friend pulls away, don't chase after her

Just get busy yourself. Now's the time to think about your interests, and start new activities. Try out for the school play, or join a school sports club. There are tons of things to do and tons of people to meet.

No Longer Friends Tip: Make the extra effort

If you spent every waking moment with your best friend, your classmates might think you're not interested in them. This means you might have to get the friendship ball rolling. What about that girl whose locker is next to yours who always says something funny, or the girl in your English class who likes the same books you do, or your lab partner? Just look around. The possibilities for new friendships are endless!

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LovelyLavender1234

Posted April 11, 2012

oops ;) i meant bff's lol

LovelyLavender1234

Posted April 07, 2012

my crush hates me :( what should i do and does that mean he likes me??? we were bf's :) i miss hanging with him! D':

Arthritisisablessing

Posted March 25, 2012

Dogsrule101_love, if you're always getting into fights, then maybe one or both of you are taking things too seriously and getting mad for no good reason. If you really don't think so, then maybe you should hang out with your other friends.

Arthritisisablessing

Posted March 25, 2012

sailormooon612, Just get them into a room together, let one explain to the other their side, then visa versa, and then you explain to them and remind them how much fun you all had together and all that stuff.

Arthritisisablessing

Posted March 25, 2012

bballchick3, just apologize. Then let her talk and yell and talk and yell until you gget to talk. Then tell her how you feel and your side. Then apologize. Say that you two shouldn't break up just because of that one reason.

Arthritisisablessing

Posted March 25, 2012

julz-I<3 ?, just ask her why she's being like this. Explain to her that you don't like it. If she's being mean, then don't be her friend anymore. Just let things like forgetting to put your name on a paper. Just let those things go. Don't get in a fight. I live by two of those kinds of people. They can be annoying, but just ignore them the best you can. If they don't stop by like a week, just tell a teacher or someone. Those people are hard to deal with. I wouldn't be their friends anymore.

Arthritisisablessing

Posted March 25, 2012

Grace of lerua, just explain to her that you didn't mean what you did or said like that. Tell her she needs to stop being so sensitive and to stop taking things the wrong way. Don't take this the wrong way, but she might be deliberately doing that for attention and sympothy.

Arthritisisablessing

Posted March 25, 2012

cece4ever, boys can be weird, but girls are usually spending time especially with one person. He might just want to hang out with other people too, and you should do the same. He probably just says your his BFF so you don't feel bad. Just find more friends and hang out with him when you have the time.

MusicalNerd

Posted March 25, 2012

I was best friends with a girl since kindergarden but because I got into a higher math class in 6th grade, we're in different classes. I haven't talked to her in over a year now.