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Added November 21, 2011

My Friend Has A Boyfriend

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When you're in love with someone, everything in your life changes. You don't see your friends and family as much because you're spending a huge chunk of your time with your boyfriend. Everyone says you seem happier, like you're floating on air. Everything that comes out of your mouth starts with his name ("John thinks..."). It's like your whole life suddenly revolves around this guy.

 

What if it's not you that's in love, but your best friend? You remember her, right? You used to hang out all of the time and go shopping and watch movieswhat's her name again? Now she has this AWESOME boyfriend, who's SO much fun (you're rolling your eyes now, right?), and you never see her anymore.

 

Whenever a friend gets a boyfriend, the process starts off slowly. First she's gushing about him to you on your nightly phone calls. Then they're "official," and she never stops talking about him. So much so, that you start discussing the weather or golfanything to bring the subject off of how gosh darn fabulous he is! The girl you used to hang out with every weekend is breaking your plans left and right.

 

It really hurts when you feel like you've lost your best friend to a dumb guy. You rely on her for good times, a shoulder to lean on, someone you can spill your secrets and dreams to, and now it seems like she doesn't even need you!

 

You need to sit your friend down and tell her how you really feel. You feel left out and forgotten, and you owe it to yourself to be honest with her.

 

Don't try to drop by her house or corner her in the hallway at school. Call her a couple days before (so she can clear her schedule with WhatsHisFace) and ask her if you could meet her somewhere to talk. Pick some place quiet like your house or a coffee shop. Sit down and tell the truth!

 

Before you meet up with her, sit down and list all of the reasons you're upset. Be realistic. You're upset she doesn't involve you in her life anymore, not because you think her boyfriend's a total dweeb. Don't bash him, because that will only turn her away from you. She'll be less apt to listen if you're talking smack about the person who is most important in her life right now.

 

Most likely, she'll realize how poorly she's been treating you and apologize. You still may not see her as often as in the pre-boyfriend era. You have to realize that she now has TWO very important people in her life.

 

If she acts completely unresponsive to your feelings, don't give up on her. She'll come around eventually and realize hanging out with her boyfriend every single waking moment is incomparable to what you two have. If they end up breaking up, save the "I told you so." Be there for her. That's what real friends are for!

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LoLo33
LoLo33
Posted April 02, 2012
Just stay positive! Don't let one person bring you down! I've BBEdit in that position 4 times-with the same friend! Just tell him/her how you really feel and it will change their whole perspective! I guarantee!
Arthritisisablessing
Arthritisisablessing
Posted March 25, 2012
Hey, if this happens to you, go out and make more friends or spend time with your other friends!
bubblegum23
bubblegum23
Posted November 07, 2011
I have this best friend and she already have a boyfriend but she still spends her spare time hanging out with me. And she tells me whats wrong about her and him.. I was always there for her to help her with her problems...!! :))
Swimchick56234
Swimchick56234
Posted October 31, 2011
my best friend has a boyfriend and she is like leaving us for him one night she came to my house for a sleep over and she was talking about him and talking and talking. then out of the blue i slaped her to bring her back to earth. S he yelled in pain and ask y i did it and i told her and she said she was being werid about and 6talking a lot about him sooo i guess i kinda saved her
queen supreme
queen supreme
Posted October 16, 2011
I haven't experinced this yet and hopefully it will not come soon. I don't want my bff to start ditching me 4 some boy she met 2 weeks ago!
scarclaw
scarclaw
Posted September 03, 2011
im starting to hate guys my friends talk anbout there bfs constantly!!!!
scarclaw
scarclaw
Posted September 03, 2011
my friend has a boyfriend and it freaking makes me mad she already tlks about him 24.7 and i just want to make her shut up grrr
kittyykittyy
kittyykittyy
Posted August 24, 2011
what if that "friend" is married lol
x man fan girl
x man fan girl
Posted August 20, 2011
My best friend's boyfriend noticed that we were at odds. He decided for us to start getting along again. He cleared their schedule so we could hang out. Initially me and him were at each others throats. Now we get along more.
Pua143
Pua143
Posted August 17, 2011
omg this is what happened to me she had a boy friend and hung out with outher ppl and then she got dumped this happened not to long ago and while dating she totally ignored me and now shes texting me so i know how this feels how to be with a friend who has a boy firends yup
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