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Added November 21, 2011

My Friend Has A Boyfriend

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When you're in love with someone, everything in your life changes. You don't see your friends and family as much because you're spending a huge chunk of your time with your boyfriend. Everyone says you seem happier, like you're floating on air. Everything that comes out of your mouth starts with his name ("John thinks..."). It's like your whole life suddenly revolves around this guy.

 

What if it's not you that's in love, but your best friend? You remember her, right? You used to hang out all of the time and go shopping and watch movieswhat's her name again? Now she has this AWESOME boyfriend, who's SO much fun (you're rolling your eyes now, right?), and you never see her anymore.

 

Whenever a friend gets a boyfriend, the process starts off slowly. First she's gushing about him to you on your nightly phone calls. Then they're "official," and she never stops talking about him. So much so, that you start discussing the weather or golfanything to bring the subject off of how gosh darn fabulous he is! The girl you used to hang out with every weekend is breaking your plans left and right.

 

It really hurts when you feel like you've lost your best friend to a dumb guy. You rely on her for good times, a shoulder to lean on, someone you can spill your secrets and dreams to, and now it seems like she doesn't even need you!

 

You need to sit your friend down and tell her how you really feel. You feel left out and forgotten, and you owe it to yourself to be honest with her.

 

Don't try to drop by her house or corner her in the hallway at school. Call her a couple days before (so she can clear her schedule with WhatsHisFace) and ask her if you could meet her somewhere to talk. Pick some place quiet like your house or a coffee shop. Sit down and tell the truth!

 

Before you meet up with her, sit down and list all of the reasons you're upset. Be realistic. You're upset she doesn't involve you in her life anymore, not because you think her boyfriend's a total dweeb. Don't bash him, because that will only turn her away from you. She'll be less apt to listen if you're talking smack about the person who is most important in her life right now.

 

Most likely, she'll realize how poorly she's been treating you and apologize. You still may not see her as often as in the pre-boyfriend era. You have to realize that she now has TWO very important people in her life.

 

If she acts completely unresponsive to your feelings, don't give up on her. She'll come around eventually and realize hanging out with her boyfriend every single waking moment is incomparable to what you two have. If they end up breaking up, save the "I told you so." Be there for her. That's what real friends are for!

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hopey13
hopey13
Posted April 01, 2013
me and by bff used to be together all the time . in school and out . and ever since she got a boyfriend i dont see her as much and it sucks . we used to walk to class together . go to each others lockers , work together and now we dont do that at all this year . because her boyfriend gets upset .... i dont think that's right i try to talk to her about it . she tells me she'll talk to him about it and things we'll change but they never do ...... sometimes i feel like i'm losing my bff
♫MyLifeIsRanByMusic♪
♫MyLifeIsRanByMusic♪
Posted August 12, 2012
nobody really likes me as a person. so when my best friend left to hang out with her boyfriend at school i just had to fit my way in with other people so i wasnt a loner and people would ask me whats wrong. i eventually hung out with one girl everyday. she was cool but it wasnt like my best friend. i know it sounds mean but i wanted them to break up. also because i was jealous. because she was always going out with who i liked and i didnt really have anyone. i wanted her to be so sad so she could talk to me about it. turns out she broke up with him and is not even sad. i just wanted to feel important.
Prettygurl4444
Prettygurl4444
Posted May 21, 2012
my bestie used to date a guy i really liked. i felt kinda sad. the weird thing was that they never hang out together. i thought couple hang with each other. was a wrong or something?
Kelulu
Kelulu
Posted June 08, 2012
Sounds familair
emmaclairegreen
emmaclairegreen
Posted June 18, 2012
My friend and I were inseparable before she got her boyfriend. He doesnt like me and now she just completely avoids me because he says so. And when they break up, she wont have a shoulder to cry on. No one in class likes her and she doesnt realize that everyone is mad at her. Ugh. I hate her and that stupid boyfriend.
LUCKYLOVE
LUCKYLOVE
Posted June 09, 2012
That sounds like a friend that i know
LoLo33
LoLo33
Posted April 02, 2012
Just stay positive! Don't let one person bring you down! I've BBEdit in that position 4 times-with the same friend! Just tell him/her how you really feel and it will change their whole perspective! I guarantee!
bubblegum23
bubblegum23
Posted November 07, 2011
I have this best friend and she already have a boyfriend but she still spends her spare time hanging out with me. And she tells me whats wrong about her and him.. I was always there for her to help her with her problems...!! :))
Arthritisisablessing
Arthritisisablessing
Posted March 25, 2012
Hey, if this happens to you, go out and make more friends or spend time with your other friends!
Swimchick56234
Swimchick56234
Posted October 31, 2011
my best friend has a boyfriend and she is like leaving us for him one night she came to my house for a sleep over and she was talking about him and talking and talking. then out of the blue i slaped her to bring her back to earth. S he yelled in pain and ask y i did it and i told her and she said she was being werid about and 6talking a lot about him sooo i guess i kinda saved her
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