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Added August 01, 2013

Mother and Daughter Relationships

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"We're either best friends or worst enemies. There's no in-between. Sometimes we can discuss the future in civilized and intimate ways. We connect and hug and laugh so hard; we're in perfect synch. Then, other times, we can't even be in the same room without insulting each other. She's controlling, bossy, and constantly in my face, never listening or respecting what I have to say."

 

Sound familiar? Without a doubt, mother and daughter relationships are the most intense of all relationships, often turning their home into a battleground during adolescence. Whether the reasons for intense mother and daughter relationships are physical (some believe the dueling hormones of menstruation and menopause contribute to the strife) or societal (just when girls need independence, their moms need connection), the troubled bond is too important to ignore.

 

The good news is, according to Psychology Today, despite conflicts and complicated emotions, the mother and daughter relationship bond is so strong that 92% of adult women report positive mother and daughter relationships. What can you do today to improve the state of your union? Here are a few suggestions.

 

Choose your battles carefully, and wait to find a good time to speak about what's troubling you. You might say, "Mom, there's something really important I need to discuss with you. When would be a good time for us to talk? Use a respectful tone and listen carefully, even if what you're hearing is not making you happy. No eye rolling. Just because you come from different generations and have different outlooks, doesn't mean mother and daughter can't be heard and understood.

 

Make time for mother and daughter relationships. Mommy and me classes should continue throughout your lives. Join a book club. Take a cooking class. Start a fitness regimen. Try out for a play together. Friendship and learning with mother and daughter relationships go hand in hand.

 

Volunteer together. Helping others often brings out the best in people, making us thankful for what we have and for those in our lives we love.

 

Write to each other. If there is something you find difficult to say, send a thoughtfully constructed written message to clear the air.

 

Show appreciation for mother and daughter relationships. When Mother's Day or your mom's birthday is near, you have the perfect opportunity. Don't be afraid to go the sentimental route. Spend time choosing the perfect card, and then think about what you want to say on this once-a-year occasion. Include yourself and your relationship with your mom in the gift you pick out. Picture frames filled with a shared tradition or memory always works. What about a motherhood box: a chest for her to fill with her favorite keepsakes with compartments and pouches for everything from a lock of hair to your first report card. At your local print center, you can make personalized placemats, mouse pads, or travel mugs with photocopied birth certificates and favorite snapshots. Of course you can never go wrong with the old standbys: flowers, breakfast in bed, or a piece of jewelry!

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lovenovela
lovenovela
Posted April 21, 2014
My mom and I are really close.She even helps me with my period.And she's always there for me whenever I need her . She's like a best friend to me.
ProxyLover
ProxyLover
Posted July 04, 2013
My mom has a mental illness and it causes her to be hard on herself and others, so me and my sister don't get along with her.
XxYaniixX
XxYaniixX
Posted October 09, 2012
My mom gets mad at every little thing i say or do. I don't know how to deal with it anymore. She's all good and great around everybody else, but as soon as i'm in the picture she's all angry. I can't play around with her. I used to tell her everything, but now i don't because i feel like... well i know she's just going to get mad and scream and cuss. like always. i'm nowhere near close to her anymore, and when i try to talk to her about anything she gets loud and angry. JUST BECAUSE SHE'S MY MOTHER SHE THINKS SHE'S OH SO PERFECT AND SHE CAN SAY/DO WHATEVER SHE WANTS TO ME.
Thebritishnerdlol
Thebritishnerdlol
Posted July 04, 2013
My mom loves me.... I know this but she treats me like i cant think for myself or be responsible and after she got mad at me back in January we cant even talk or laugh with each other anymore and sometimes i just wish that day never happened I miss my old Mommy :'(
rayly135
rayly135
Posted September 10, 2012
Caleigh13 I know exactly how you feel me and my mom are the same my mom yells because i forget about something and then shes really nice to my older and younger brothers and now she blocked my email on all our tablets so I can only chem it on the computer and I can never get alone long enough to check it and I'm sooooo anoid but when she yells at me half the time I go to my room crying she tries to understand but she cant and then she starts yelling
country_gurl14
country_gurl14
Posted July 03, 2013
You have no idea how much you need your mother in your life until it's taken away.. Charish those relationships with your mothers girls!! As much as you may have a hard time seeing eye to eye, or them not letting you go to that party.. You don't want to have to have problems with your moms, stick together ladies!
HungerGamesLuv.74
HungerGamesLuv.74
Posted August 05, 2012
My mom and I aren't really close. I only tell her things if they are getting out of hand. I don't like telling her things, because when they are so over, she brings them up out of no where, and then gets mad when I try to change the subject.
Caleigh13
Caleigh13
Posted August 24, 2012
My mom and I do not get along at all. She yells at me for the smallest things, does she ever know that sometimes it hurts my feelings. My mom doesn't do this to my other sibling, wouldn't you think that the youngest child wouldn't be yelled at the most, well you're wrong.
Amelia_Loves_U
Amelia_Loves_U
Posted July 19, 2012
my mother barely talks to me and when i try to talk to her she rolls her eyes so i've given up...
rayly135
rayly135
Posted September 10, 2012
Caleigh13 I know exactly how you feel me and my mom are the same my mom yells because i forget about something and then shes really nice to my older and younger brothers and now she blocked my email on all our tablets so I can only chem it on the computer and I can never get alone long enough to check it and I'm sooooo anoid but when she yells at me half the time I go to my room crying she tries to understand but she cant and then she starts yelling
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