So it's time to bring him home to start meeting the parents. We won't lie to you...introducing him to your parents has all the ingredients necessary to make it one of the most stressful events ever. Will your mom and dad see all the reasons you feel the way you do about him? Will he (can anyone?) live up to the impossibly high standards they've set? No one can promise things will go perfectly, but there are some things you can do to achieve the best meeting the parents result. All sides are aware of how important it is to make a good first impression. That's why some experts suggest that the earlier in the relationship this initial meeting with the parents takes place, the less pressure there is on everyone involved. Your parents recognize the significance of this meeting as much as you do. Before the night of meeting the parents, set the stage. Sit down with your parents and tell them how much you care about this boy, how happy you are when you're with him, and how much it means to you that they get to know him. Your parents love you and want you to be happy...plus, they probably remember experiencing the agony of being exactly where you are at this moment in time. Let them know a little bit about your boyfriend and help create some areas of conversation. If your dad is a football fanatic, say something like, "Dad, Brian is a die hard Jets fan. Tell him the story about the time you saw Joe Namath in that restaurant." Ask your parents to please not tell embarrassing stories about when you were five...and to keep those family photo albums under lock and key. If your parents have certain quirks (and whose don't!) let your boyfriend know before he is meeting the parents. To be safe, tell him to stay away from hot topics like sex, politics, religion, and money that might ignite an argument. Even if they agree on a controversial issue, it may lead to the topic dominating the conversation and the four of you not really getting a chance to get to know each other. Safe topics for meeting the parents are his job, sports, movies, his family, and hobbies. Tell him not to go overboard. Fathers in particular hate when guys pour it on too thick or try too hard to be funny. After meeting the parents, relax. Anticipating the tensest job interview ever is over. Afterwards, listen to what your mother and father have to say. They have your best interests at heart and their advice should not be discarded without some thought. Remember, these are people you love. Be patient and cool. Good luck!
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