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Added August 01, 2013

Dad Meeting Boyfriend

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Introducing your boyfriend to your father for the first time is a major step. It means that your relationship is not fly-by-night, and it's worth overcoming the cringe-worthy scenarios you're undoubtedly imagining. To make sure this encounter will be successful, you have to understand your father's concerns and prepare yourself emotionally for what can become, for better or worse, one of your lifetime memories!

 

If your father is a first generation Latino, chances are he expects you to live at home until you get married. He probably finds divorce unacceptable. He was raised to believe that relatives are more important than friends and worries that you are not as attached to traditional values as he would wish. So how can you communicate to him how much it means to you that he likes your guy? Definitely not by sneaking behind your father's back. The answer lies in listening carefully to what your dad says.

 

Before bringing your boyfriend home, make sure you tell your dad you love him for wanting the best for you and that this guy makes you feel happy and cared for. Ask him to be grateful that you are with someone who treats you so well. If he is uncomfortable with your choice based on racism, classism, or religious biases, he's probably concerned with how the rest of the family will react, and if you will be labeled. Tell him quietly you do not share his views and can't live your life according to opinions you don't consider valid. Try to make it clear you are in a relationship, not the middle of a debate about social justice.

 

If he objects on other grounds, try to stay calm while you consider whether any of his concerns are reasonable. If he finds fault with your boyfriend's reputation, listen to what he's heard, who he's heard it from, and when he heard it. If what he tells you is brand-new to you, you will have to ask a few questions and honestly look at the answers you are given. Is the source unreliable? If he finds fault with your boyfriend's behavior, is he out of line or does he have a point? Be prepared to point out if he is being nitpicky or blinded by his love for you.

 

If he is disturbed by changes in your behavior that he blames on your boyfriend, he just might be having trouble with the fact that you are in love and growing up. But if he is in any way justified in his complaints, remember love rarely changes us in ways that are dangerous or self-destructive. Using respectful language and behavior in your everyday interactions is important. Acting respectfully demonstrates maturity, and your dad is more likely to see you as capable of making important decisions if he sees you caring about how he feels. Always be truthful even if he doesn't like the truth, never sneak around and never give up trying to understand where he's coming from.

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Baby_Girl154
Baby_Girl154
Posted July 24, 2013
My dad said if he makes me happy and is honest, he will meet him but if not don't bother bringing him home. LOL My dad is the best (sometimes, JK LOL)
Baby_Girl154
Baby_Girl154
Posted July 23, 2013
Me, my mom and my grandma did a prank on my grandpa and told my dad to play along. My mom went on the internet and was looking for a cute guy but the one she found was perfect. He was cute, and he was a guy that had a hat sideways, tattoo's and glasses and he was built. He was hot lol but anyway we told my grandpa I had a boyfriend and he got mad and when he got off of work he came to pick my grandma up we showed him the picture and he got even more mad. Hahaha he was like "Your dad's okay with that?" I was like "yeah" We told him we were coming over to their house for dinner that weekend. He was like "I don't think that's a good idea" hahahah I had to walk away. We never showed up. This went on for like a month or two and I had to tell him it was a joke. and of course he got mad HAHAHAHAHAHA My grandpa is so easy to mess with.
nickip123
nickip123
Posted February 17, 2013
I have never had a boyfriend in my life. I don't think I should worry about that for a while!!!
Mizma
Mizma
Posted July 03, 2013
I'm not aloud to date until im 13
Loves!23
Loves!23
Posted July 29, 2012
This helped me sooo much My Dad said if he made me happy He was fine with it! WOO
Hychew
Hychew
Posted October 09, 2012
It is kind of awkward to have your boyfriend meeting dad!
maroon14
maroon14
Posted July 27, 2012
My dad and i have been talking about this and he is really not looking forword to the meeting
maroon14
maroon14
Posted July 27, 2012
Mostly dads problems are they just dont want to let go of their little girl so u just have to remind him you have grown
PrincessAngie12
PrincessAngie12
Posted July 15, 2012
@acsgall44: thanks so much I think I will try this tuhh see if my dad can understand... thank yuhh:) if yuhh have a problem yuhh can akways ask me :)
Chic_Love
Chic_Love
Posted July 27, 2012
My parent don't know I date. My mom knows that I have had a boyfriend before but she made me break up with him. I was gonna anyway. I want to show my new boyfriend to my parent but my dad is super overprotective.
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