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Added August 01, 2013

Love at First Sight

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Love at first sight! Can this be real? The chemistry of romance.


"I'll never forget how I felt the first time I saw Josh," recalls Karen. "Although he looked nothing like the kind of guy I thought I'd fall for, there was no denying something chemical was going on, maybe it was love at first sight...on both our parts. Every part of my body went on high alert. I was tongue-tied, my heart beat double-time, my face flushed, and the butterflies in my stomach went wild...before I even knew his name!"


"I'll never forget the first time Michael looked at me," smiles Carrie. "It was so strange. Like he actually stole my heart. The whole experience was beyond reason. The love at first sight didn't last long, but it was the best feeling."


Unlike most of the clichés about love and romance, evidence that love at first sight really does exist can be documented. Scientists might argue, however, that it's a specific kind of loveinfatuation to be exactthat causes this incredible sensation. The excitement and nervousness accompanying love at first sight is intensetoo intense, they argue, to survive the time and patience a long-lasting relationship demands.


Look through your favorite magazine and you'll see fragrances advertised that boast of being laced with pheromones, the odorless airborne molecules researchers believe are behind that gushy, giddy first look. Recent studies are exploring the notion that love may be ruled as much by these molecules as it is driven by emotion. The physiological component is so powerful, some researchers believe, that within ten years there could be a brain chemical nasal spray manufactured to enhance love between a couple!


Doctors have compared love at first sight with the feeling you get after eating lots of chocolate. As your body releases a load of hormones combined with the neurotransmitter dopamine, you feel a rush, a natural high. Your pupils dilate, your heart pumps harder, you start to sweat, and even the glands in your scalp release oil to create extra shine. It's almost the identical response your body would have if you were afraid or angry. Scientists call it "the flight or fight response," only here you don't want to fight or flee.


The good news is that the knowledge of neuroscience is doubling every two and a half years, meaning that scientists have learned more than in all prior humans about the working of the brain in the last two and a half years. They are excited about the possibility of understanding exactly what it is about love at first sight that ignites the spark that melts our hearts. The bad news is that the number of flip-flops your stomach does upon meeting someone has nothing to do with the kind of love that the fairy tales promise.


All the studies in the world can't change the fact that the honeymoon state of love at first sight doesn't last. Real life intrudes and annoying habits, human frailties, and serious character flaws come into play. Suddenly you notice that he wears funny shoes and talks way too much about Australian Rules football. As the love at first sight and spell of crazy hormones dissipates, you see the size of his ego. As passion releases its grip, you see he is definitely not The One.


Real love takes time and patience and a whole lot more than being swept off your feet from love at first sight. It involves knowing one another in a deeper, more profound way. That can't happen in an instant. But if until your honest, intelligent, compassionate, kind prince comes along, you're lucky enough to inhale some of these magical pheromones, enjoy the love at first sight experience.

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Posted April 21, 2014
I can remember love at first sight with some boys and it was so romantic and dreamy,but true love requires time,that's what I've learnt
Posted March 29, 2014
So when I moved to a new school my first day was a little scary because there was a swarm of boys around me trying to show me around and get me to go to their class but the one boy who acted like he didn't care is the cutest one and is the only one who seemed nice and a good kid. Now I have been there for about 4-5 months and I still have a huge crush on him. He already knows that I like him ( I honestly think that my "friend" told him because she told me that he knew) and my two best friends keep saying that he likes me because he is talking to me and sitting close to me at lunch. He knows the basics about me and I know the basics about him but am still just not sure if he really does like me. I need a second opinion if anyone understood this plz answer??
Posted March 29, 2014
is it ok to date when your 13? i cant ask my mom or my dad bcuz its really awkward..who can answer for me?
Posted January 02, 2014
He probably does! But just to make sure, watch his body language when he's around you. When he is sitting next to you, does his body seem to be leaning/slightly facing you? Does he look at you a lot? When you're in class keep an eye on him. Try flirting with him, but be subtle. Does he respond well? Whenever you are by him and his group of friends, watch them. Do they looks at you a lot or push him a little towards you or joke with him? These could be indicators that he likes you! Good Luck:)
Posted November 24, 2013
There's this guy who was in my Grade 8 class and now he's in the same high school as me in Grade 9. We both are in 3 classes together and he sits beside me. Also, he talks to me a lot! Does he like me or what? Can anybody answer me, plz?
Posted September 03, 2013
on my first day of grade 5 i saw this guy and then we sat beside each outher and now i have a huge crush on him and he told my little sis he liked me on the first day of school
Posted August 03, 2013
Love at first sight does exist, I met this guy and two days later we admitted we liked each other. We started dating two weeks after we met and its been going strong ;) And for all you girls out there who are still waiting for someone, trust me, it will happen and when it does you will be the happiest girl around!
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pricess umi fumi
Posted November 11, 2012
there this boy named ladez baker and ive liked him since 1st grade so this year he asked me out and i said yes. when a boy ask you to a prom dont scream out loud saying yes yes!! hell think your desprate
Posted July 21, 2012
I have been with this guy for 8months now and when i first saw him i knew he was everything i ever wanted and within the 8 months we were together , everything has been Great . So love at first sight is TRUE !!!
Posted August 24, 2012
I fell in love with him at first sight 4 years ago. It is real. I still love him even more so then the first day
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