My Friends And I Are Always Liking The Same Guy Dear BeingGirl Experts, I have this friend named Julia, who I am pretty close to, but she really makes me upset about one thing. Whenever I start liking a guy she always has to like him too, as if she needs to compete with me. Should I confront her, and if so, how? Kajsa --- Dear Kajsa , Friends crushing on the same guy happens often. You will only complicate your relationship with your friend by getting upset or confronting her. Remember your friend will be around a lot longer than a guy if you treat her right. Going after the same guy isn't a smart idea no matter who likes him first. I wish there were a secret formula I could tell you about so you wouldn't continue to like him but there isn't one. You'll get over him and hopefully this will happen soon. Hope this helps, Your BeingGirl Experts P.S. This holds true for girlfriends as well —when the popular, pretty new girl who invited you over Friday night after you and your best friend already made plans. Remember, your best friend will be around (if you're lucky) far longer than these others will. Learn about liking the same guy and get answers to your questions at BeingGirl.com.