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Added November 21, 2011

Let Me Date, Mom

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Hi BeingGirl Experts,

Well this may not be a question to you, but it is to me, and I would be very happy if you answered it. Okay, here it goes: well you know when a girl is in her puberty years, and her mom wants you to tell her everything that is happening? And, well, it's kind of weird telling my mom. But I don't want to hurt her feelings.

What should I do?

Bette

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Dear Bette,

Being a teen is fun and hard, just as being a mom is fun and hard. Chances are mom is nervous about you maturing and having interests that don’t involve her. She may not even realize she has these feelings. Some ideas you may find helpful when interacting with mom include:

Avoid starting sentences with, "Everyone else..." because this pushes parents' buttons.
Agree with mom sometimes and try saying, "That's true," or, "Good idea," or "I see what you mean."
Giving her occasional compliments like, "That looks nice," or "That was a great meal," might just lift her mood.
Be as grown up as you can. When you act like an adult, chances are better you will bring out the adult in your mom as well.
And don't try to have the last word.

Changing patterns involves hard work, but it is possible. You can do this!

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fashionqueen21

Posted December 15, 2012

My mom does reverse psycology on me. If i ask her to date she's always says you know what to do when im not even sure

JJ Foey

Posted October 09, 2012

My mom wont let me date till im 15. like 3 or 4 years. i have a boyfriend though, and i just call him my guy friend. totally harmless in my free family. My parents let everything slide.

XxHoloxX

Posted July 29, 2012

my mom will literally kill me if i said i'm dating a boy wow things will get ugly. When she's done with me the house will be upside down

gummball987

Posted August 12, 2012

ya my mom will let me date its jux my dad ugh parents

1032 atlanta dr

Posted July 19, 2012

I'm 16 and my mom won't let me but my dad is totally fine with it. Every time I mention the word date she yells at me and says that I can't date till I'm 30. story of my life: /

iLuvmusic029

Posted August 20, 2012

My mom doesn't really care if I date or not as long as I'm safe and responsible. But, sometimes I wonder if my dad was here (my parents are divorced) what would he say when I tell him that I want to date?

Vicki Lynn

Posted July 05, 2012

My mom won't let me date til I'm 16, I don't exactly want to yet. My school has really obnoxious boys, so yeah.

Maddie11swimmergirl

Posted June 14, 2012

The other day a really cute, nice guy asked me out to the dance this weekend and I wanted to say yes, but my dad hates the idea of me dating. But it's so not fair that I can't date becuase everyone will have a date this weekend (but I won't tell my dad that everyone else will have a date lolz) but great advice thanks