Let Me Date, Mom
Hi BeingGirl Experts, Well this may not be a question to you, but it is to me, and I would be very happy if you answered it. Okay, here it goes: well you know when a girl is in her puberty years, and her mom wants you to tell her everything that is happening? And, well, it's kind of weird telling my mom. But I don't want to hurt her feelings. What should I do? Bette --- Dear Bette, Being a teen is fun and hard, just as being a mom is fun and hard. Chances are mom is nervous about you maturing and having interests that don’t involve her. She may not even realize she has these feelings. Some ideas you may find helpful when interacting with mom include: Avoid starting sentences with, "Everyone else..." because this pushes parents' buttons. Agree with mom sometimes and try saying, "That's true," or, "Good idea," or "I see what you mean." Giving her occasional compliments like, "That looks nice," or "That was a great meal," might just lift her mood. Be as grown up as you can. When you act like an adult, chances are better you will bring out the adult in your mom as well. And don't try to have the last word. Changing patterns involves hard work, but it is possible. You can do this!
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