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Added August 01, 2013

Keeping A Secret

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Let's be honest: We love to know things that others don't. Secrets are a fact of life. The problems occur when keeping a secret becomes challenging. A recent study found that four in 10 women had trouble keeping a secret, no matter how personal or confidential the news was. And two-thirds ended up feeling guilty after spilling the beans.

 

When someone tells us something in confidence, it's because he or she trusts us enough to listen and keep our mouth shut. When we don't, trust is lost. Part of growing up is learning to distinguish the times when revealing information makes you a snitch from the times when telling a secret (such as when a friend's health and safety is at stake) might be the right thing to do.


Keeping a Secret
Why do people keep secrets?
People may worry that if certain information is known, they will be judged or looked down upon or that someone will use that information against them.

Keeping a Secret
Is there a difference between a good secret and a bad secret?
Yes. A good secret is not harmful to you or anyone else. Examples would be keeping a secret about an upcoming surprise party or a wrapped Christmas present. All kinds of personal information including passwords, address and phone numbers when you're online should remain private. A bad secret might concern a friend or family member who is in trouble and risking her health and safety. Whether it's drug-related or bad-crowd-related, those secrets that make anyone feel scared, uncomfortable, sad, or angry should be shared.

Keeping a Secret
How can you do the noble, trustworthy thing when keeping a piece of juicy information to yourself is so hard?
You'll quickly get a reputation as a gossipmonger if you start talking bad about others behind their back. If you get into this habit, chances are you are going to blurt out someone's secrets. Fight the urge to spill. Walk away, bite your lip, or change the subject. Think of yourself as a loyal and trustworthy person.

  • Tell a white lie if you have to. Try to forget about the secret. The less it's on your mind, the easier it is when keeping a secret.
  • Talk about the secret with the person who told it to you. Discussing it should help quiet the urge to share it with others.


Keeping a Secret
What if you blurt out a friend s secret?
Apologize. No excuses. Nothing beats sincerity. Even if you're being yelled at, try not to lose your temper. Take the blame, say you're sorry, and learn from the experience never to make the same mistake again.

Keeping a Secret
Can keeping a secret be bad for you?
Yes. Keeping a secret can cut you off from others. If you have to keep a difficult secret for a long time, it can provoke anxiety and worry. Living with these emotions can lead to stress, which can lead to stomachaches and headaches.

Sometimes with secrets there are no easy answers. Part of growing up is making that hard decision to keep silent. But that hardship is important in helping us define who we are and what we believe in.

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Joyful Girl
Joyful Girl
Posted January 07, 2014
I feel secrets are important in some cases! Some secrets that I've been told, I had to tell because the secret was going to harm someone in some way. I've asked few people (only those who I can trust completely) to keep secrets. Mostly God and my diary know my secrets, but sometimes I just have to tell one of my adult friends my secret. Also, I've been asked to keep many secrets.
Joyful Girl
Joyful Girl
Posted January 07, 2014
I also agree with Britt7731!! Right on!!! :)
SoftballGirl10
SoftballGirl10
Posted December 19, 2013
I have group of 4 friends that I'm super close with. We all know that everyone else in the group can be trusted completely with any secrets or gossip. And, like other girls, we don't go squealing and teasing when someone admits a crush or a juicy secret.
Anna939
Anna939
Posted August 22, 2013
c/o2014~ If she just went and backstabbed you like that, you need to talk to her and tell her how you feel. If I were you, I would keep my distance from her from now on! Don't let her put you down by sharing your secrets. If you must, but I don't recommend it, gain her trust back. But if this happens again, you need to stay away from this girl. Hope this helps!!!!
Anna939
Anna939
Posted August 22, 2013
Abby~ if your friend told you anything that could be illegal GET HELP NOW!!!! You need to talk to your parents first, and if you are old enough both of you could go to juvi for keeping the secret!!! I don't want that to happen!!!!!
Sonikku
Sonikku
Posted September 16, 2013
SecretsI keep secrets. I ask if I can tell it and well it depens on the secret I love my friends were like family and well.... Pretty much I know when someone tells you an important secret you feel So Proud to be trust I meant admit it xD and when they tell you You feel like you can tell them anything as well... Just remember you ant trust EVERYONE you think ~Reagan
girlyglittergurl
girlyglittergurl
Posted August 06, 2013
I agree with britt7731
Britt7731
Britt7731
Posted July 18, 2013
when i keep a secret for a friend and not tell every one it makes that person fell good about their self because they fell like they have someone to trust with their darkest secret and helps them have confidence to talk to someone instead of keeping inside.
beatiful zariah
beatiful zariah
Posted August 20, 2013
im still having trouble telling my secrets to my friends because i think they will tell it and it will ruin my friendship with everyone but i got a friend who wont say a thing she a F-KEEPER if u dont know what it means just say its a friendship keeper
owlgirl3
owlgirl3
Posted August 09, 2013
I'm still keeping secrets from kindergarten, so I consider myself a good secret keeper
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