Dear BeingGirl Experts, Why does my best friend get all the attention, and I'm shy? Nadia --- Dear Nadia, Just because your friend gets attention doesn't mean you go unnoticed. Many times one friend is more outgoing and friendly in social situations. This means most of the conversation goes her way. But being shy or unsure of yourself in social situations should not make you a wallflower. Actually, being shy can be a trait some people like. Those who are shy are usually good listeners! If you want to participate more in the conversations around you, then learn about the things people are interested in. Practice at home what you would like to say and what questions you want to ask. Knowing what you want to say will make conversation easier when with a group. It is easier to learn to talk with people if you get involved in an activity you find interesting. Working together on common goals and interests means you'll have real things to talk about. And...keep smiling. A smile will invite conversation! Your BeingGirl Experts Worried because you're shy? Get answers to your teen girl questions at BeingGirl.com.