Dear BeingGirl Experts,

Well, my question is that every guy that I have ever liked has never liked me. Then the guys I don't like always like me. I can never talk to the guys I like. But the guys that like me, I can talk to them, no problem. Why? And why don't the guys I like, like me back?

Ellie

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Dear Ellie,

Most teens experience this. You'll get past this, honest! It is often uncomfortable talking with the person you most want to impress.

The right boy will come along. Just be patient—forcing the issue doesn’t help. Keep doing the things you enjoy—people are more attracted to someone who is involved in interesting things and in someone who looks like she's having fun. Try expanding the circle of people you know by joining new activities.

Crushes are a natural part of growing up. A crush lets you try on all kinds of new feelings, sort of like going into a store and trying on all kinds of clothes without having to buy them. Crushes help you experience romantic feelings. You also get to consider what you like in other people. You learn how to deal with frustration when you can't get what you want. All of this helps you get ready for the day you get into a real relationship with someone.

When it comes to conversation with guys ask about things in his life you know are important to him—family, sports, hobbies, etc. Ask him about his likes and dislikes. When he talks, try to pay attention to what he is saying. This way when he mentions something he is doing, you can ask him about it later.

Become a good listener! Be open to what you are hearing because this is how you learn to know which person you want to know more about.

Good luck,

Your BeingGirl Experts