Sometimes it’s just not as easy to start a conversation with boys as it is with
girls and you need some help. It can be awkward. You’re not sure where you want
it to go. You’re nervous. But you want to start it right.
We know that feeling. Relax. Think about what you’re going to say and talk directly
to him. It’s not so bad. It’s actually fun! And, lucky for you, we'd love to share
our tips on how to talk to boys. We’ll continue to learn, too, but these tips are
a good place to start. We’re here for you and we’re confident he’ll soon be listening
and talking with you!
How to talk to Boys Tip # 1
Get him to talk about himself. Guys like to talk about themselves. All people do.
One of the easiest ways to get to know a boy is to ask him questions. You could
ask, "What did you think of that test this morning?" or ask him about the team on
his baseball cap he’s wearing. Ask open-ended questions instead of questions that
could be answered by a “yes” or “no”. Give him an opportunity to expand his answers
and provide his opinion. Music, sports, TV shows and movies are also good topics.
How to talk to Boys Tip # 2
Use laughter as your strategy. Laughter is contagious. A wise man once said, "Laughter
is the best medicine." and he was right. When you're happy and laughing, it's hard
for others to not catch on. Let your sense of humor shine. If making people laugh
is not one of your strengths, search the Internet for jokes or fun anecdotes that
you can practice to bring up in the conversation.
How to talk to Boys Tip # 3
Give him a chance to talk. When we're nervous, we all tend to ramble. Stealing a
conversation and forgetting to ask questions shows a person you're not interested
in hearing about them. Pause. Take a deep breath and wait for him to participate
in the conversation.
How to talk to Boys Tip # 4
Tell the truth. Don't be so focused on impressing him that you're tempted to lie
or not be yourself. While we all tend to embellish the truth a bit, you are much
better being open, honest, and just being you. Lying about who you are will come
back to haunt you later on. Share the parts of your life that are most rewarding:
your personal interests, your friends and your family. Don't be afraid to talk about
what you do best. It's not showing off, it's sharing.
How to talk to Boys Tip # 5
Let him know you’re interested. Flirting is a great way to show someone you're interested
in getting to know them better. You don't have to read a book to learn how to do
it. Flirting is easy after you've tried it a few times. It's harmless and fun.
Some first steps: Make eye contact. Offer him a smile. You'll be surprised how you'll
naturally figure it out!
How to talk to Boys Tip # 6
Gather up your courage and go and talk to him. What's the worst that can happen?
Sometimes it just doesn’t click. Maybe you find you’re no longer interested in him.
If he’s not interested in you, find someone else who is. Learn from each conversation
and try some new things. Get involved in activities you enjoy and you’ll have more
to talk about to make the conversations flow. Just make sure the boy you approach
is worthy of someone as special as you.
Remember these tips and you’ll be ready for the next time he comes around. You’ll
easily strike up a conversation — and maybe even hit it off! You’ll be left wondering
why you thought it was so hard before. Go on. Try it out and continue to improve