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Added December 11, 2014

How to Talk to a Guy

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Sometimes it’s just not as easy to start a conversation with boys as it is with girls and you need some help. It can be awkward. You’re not sure where you want it to go. You’re nervous. But you want to start it right.


We know that feeling. Relax. Think about what you’re going to say and talk directly to him. It’s not so bad. It’s actually fun! Here are six tips on how to talk to a guy.


1. Get Him to Talk About Himself
Guys like to talk about themselves. All people do. One of the easiest ways to get to know a boy is to ask him questions. You could ask, "What did you think of that test this morning?" or ask him about the team on his baseball cap he’s wearing. Ask open-ended questions instead of questions that could be answered by a “yes” or “no.” Give him an opportunity to expand his answers and provide his opinion. Music, sports, TV shows and movies are also good topics.


2. Use Laughter as Your Strategy
Laughter is contagious. A wise man once said, "Laughter is the best medicine." and he was right. When you're happy and laughing, it's hard for others to not catch on. Let your sense of humor shine. If making people laugh is not one of your strengths, search the Internet for jokes or fun anecdotes that you can practice to bring up in the conversation.


3. Give Him a Chance to Talk
When we're nervous, we all tend to ramble. Stealing a conversation and forgetting to ask questions shows a person you're not interested in hearing about them. Pause. Take a deep breath and wait for him to participate in the conversation.


4. Tell the Truth
Don't be so focused on impressing him that you're tempted to lie or be someone else. While we all tend to embellish the truth a bit, you are much better being open, honest and just being you. Lying about who you are will come back to haunt you later on. Share the parts of your life that are most rewarding: your personal interests, your friends and your family. Don't be afraid to talk about what you do best. It's not showing off, it's sharing.


5. Try Flirting
Flirting is a great way to show someone you're interested in getting to know them better. You don't have to read a book to learn how to do it. Flirting is easy after you've tried it a few times. It's harmless and fun. Be sure to make eye contact and offer him a smile. You'll be surprised how you'll naturally figure it out!


6. Be Confident
Gather up your courage and go and talk to him. What's the worst that can happen? Sometimes it just doesn’t click. Maybe you find you’re no longer interested in him. If he’s not interested in you, find someone else who is. Learn from each conversation and try some new things. Just make sure the boy you approach is worthy of someone as special as you.


Remember these tips and you’ll be ready for the next time you’re together. You’ll easily strike up a conversation — and maybe even hit it off! You’ll be left wondering why you thought it was so hard before. Go on. Try it out and continue to improve yourself! Then you’ll want to read this article to find out if he likes you!

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Posted July 24, 2014
I get sooooo nervous when it comes to talking to guys, especially when it comes to the ones I find attractive. The part that says boys like talking about themselves is absolutely true, one I spoke with the other day just bragged about some paint job he got done. Funny, right?
Posted April 14, 2014
I am never really nervous around boys especially because I have a lot of guy friends
Posted April 06, 2014
i like this boy but im scared of what people will say.. what do i do? he even likes me back.
Posted October 19, 2013
I get nervous when I talk to boys. Do any of you know how to get over nervousness? If so it would be a HUGE help, 'cause this guy likes me and I like him and he asked me to help him with something in social studies and I was SO nervous so I said "sure" and he finally got the hang of it. He is super cute!q
Posted April 14, 2014
@ilovefams: go for it! Just because other people might think differently doesn't mean you should care about what they have to say! This is YOUR social life we're talking about! If you think you're ready to start a relationship, don't let anyone or anything stop you! Chances are, your friends will accept how you two feel about each other! Hope I helped! ^~^
Posted April 14, 2014
@TeenRocks99: trust me, you have nothing to be nervous or anxious about! Its just like talking to one of your girl friends :) don't make a bigger deal out of it, because its a lot easier when you get used to talking to the guy. maybe you could try to find ways to start a conversation, but don't do it all the time, you don't wanna give off a stalker vibe lol hope this helped!
Posted October 18, 2013
I don't need advice, they come to me!!! So I do not have to start the conversation, they start it for me.
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Posted October 12, 2013
I'm really afraid to talk boys but when I got help with this website it turn out great ,I have a lot of boys as my best friend
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Turnip girl 2013
Posted October 12, 2013
I really love this website becuz it really help me a lot epically with this topic (boys)
Posted September 14, 2013
Thanks Marshmellow, you really helped.:) I'm even dating him now. =D
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