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Added November 21, 2011

How To Break Up

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The end: how to break up

You had a crush on him for months before he finally asked you out. Your friends thought that you were the perfect couple. You two became inseparable and you couldn't imagine yourself without him.

Now something has changed and you can't imagine your life with him. You don't think that you love him anymore. Hard as it is to believe, you want out of the relationship you worked so hard to get into. Read on to learn how to break up with him.

How to break up a relationship—even one that has been a struggle—can be difficult and painful. Think about what you want to do.

How to break up: Can you work it out?

Evaluate what makes you unhappy about the relationship. Once you figure out what's wrong, you can decide if you want to fix it or end it. Some problems can be worked out—like that you want to spend more time with your friends. Other problems can't be solved—like he's insanely jealous.

How to break up: A no-go

If you decide that you want to end it, you'll have to talk to your boyfriend. Plan when and how you're going to talk to him. If you're really mad at him (say you found out he made out with your friend), it's best to wait until you calm down.

How to break up: Face the music

Although you could break up on the phone or through email, talking to him in person is kinder and more respectful. Meet in a quiet place where you won't be interrupted. Don't break up with him at a party or in a crowded restaurant. Being part of a humiliating scene is only cool on television, if at all.

How to break up: The truth will set you free

Be honest and direct. Be clear that you want to end the relationship. Don't send him mixed messages that keep him holding out hope. There's no need to blame anyone or explain yourself. Remember that this is someone you cared about once, and although you think he's a jerk right now, he's still a person with feelings.

How to break up: Moving on

Ending the relationship to date another guy can be tricky. If your boyfriend knows the guy, you might want to tell him. It may hurt him more now, but it could save him the embarrassment of finding out from friends. If he doesn't know the guy, you don't need to tell him. Your relationship is over and who you see is not really his business.

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singwithlove

Posted September 05, 2012

breaking up is never an easy thing to do. but it feels alot better then being dumped

rekless2000

Posted July 04, 2012

@destinygirl11 when you have your first kiss, most likely you won't like, make out. It probably will be like a peck on the lips. I know. Not exciting. That's how I felt with my first kiss with my bf. It might give you a happy feeling or if your like me, it wont feel like anything until you've kissed a couple of times. My and my bf were holding hands and on had a really sweet kiss that lasted only a few seconds. It was about our fifth kiss but the first one I actually FELT something. Don't feel bad if your first kiss isn't what you expected. Trust me, Almost NOBODY has a perfect 1st kiss. Hope this helped. :) rekless2000

doyouknowhowtoprotectyourself?

Posted March 18, 2012

When I think about braking up with someone I always talk to them and ask them why they did what they did.If the answer ist reasonable I tell him we need to brake up! No problem!

alywrites

Posted April 17, 2012

I hate being the one to break up with someone. It makes me feel like such a horrible person! I'm soo glad my last relationship was a mutual break-up!

Taytay133

Posted June 27, 2012

I know you dont want to hurt them but its unfair to continue dating if you dont like them anymore just tell them your reasons and try and end o a good note :)

PrincessAngie12

Posted July 02, 2012

Idk what tuhh do if I ever want tuhh break up with my boyfriend Jonathan Idk how tuhh... I mean we already kissed and I would feel wierd if I break up with him...Do yuhh guys think that I should still break up with him like a normal person would do like if they have never done anything before?? Help thanks :)

carsav2

Posted January 22, 2012

OMG!!! I'm sooooo scared to break up with a boy, but this artical really helps!! THANKS BEINGGIRL!!!

HarryPottersgirl

Posted December 25, 2011

Help! So, I kind of got myself stuck in a 3 guy situation. My mom doesn't like any of them, and here's why: Guy #1-Senior in high school. I'm a freshman. Guy #2-Already dated, broke up, but he wants me back, she doesn't want me to date someone who's already had me. Guy #3- I did date him at one point, but it was long distance. He lives 4 hours away, but we text and talk constantly. She doesn't like him because of the distance. I need help, cause I need to end it with #1, and I need to choose between #2 and #3. The thing is, #3 and I agreed that we won't date, but it's ok if we date other people, we'll still be there for each other. But I'm afraid I'll lose him, I love him with all my heart. I know, it's probably not real or whatever, but when you talk to a guy constantly for the past 7 months, you get attached. So, bear with me. What do I do?