Admit it, You couldn't live without your BFF (best friends
forever)! All 54 of them! Your friends are a key part of your life. They are the
ones who understand you, who you hang out with when you have a free moment, and
who you run to when you have a problem. You'd rather be with them than anyone else,
and you trust them with your deepest, darkest secrets.
So why did Melissa tell your crush that your bra was slightly padded the other day
during volleyball practice? And why would Carly tell Nikki that thing you said about
Taylor? Now Taylor is upset and everyone is fighting.
What's a BFF anyway? Do you really have any best friends? Stop and think for a second.
Being a good friend takes loyalty and a strong character — particularly during your
teen years. Peer pressure, cliques and groups, the temptation to gossip — these
are all very real obstacles on the road to being a trustworthy BFF. And you know
the saying, "To have a good friend, you first have to be one."
Check out the tips below on how to be a good friend:
Tip 1: Get To Know Your Friends
You say you know who your friends are. Well, you might know what time they have
English or the combination to their locker, but do you really know what makes them
tick? Sure, Amanda loves barbecue potato chips, but do you know that she is afraid
of the dark, loves singing in the shower, or has a half-brother who lives in Chicago?
Understanding who your friends are will help you be a better friend to them.
Tip 2: Get the facts straight!
A true friend goes to the source to find out if something is true. If you hear rumors,
half-truths and judgments about people you care about, talk to them to find out
their perspective before making your own conclusions. Perhaps you may help them
understand the impression they’re giving and work together to find ways to make
Tip 3: Be Trustworthy
Can people trust you? Are you honest, reliable and dependable? Take responsibility
for your actions and make friends with those who you trust. Surround yourself with
friends you can confide in and trust with your secrets, and do the same for them.
When you show that you are a good friend, your friendships will become even stronger!
Tip 4: Nobody's Perfect!
Everyone deserves a second (and maybe third, fourth, etc.) chance. You and your
friends are bound to make mistakes. Learn to forgive Laura for announcing that you
just got your period. Accept Melanie's apology for ignoring you during class because
she was sitting with the popular girls. BFFs know how to say, "I'm sorry," and "I
forgive you," while acknowledging what to do to make things right the next time.
Tip 5: Have Fun Together!
You know, sometimes BFFs just want to have fun! Spend time with your favorite friends.
Go for a bike ride. Make up a dance routine. Create a special treat. Forget all
about the little things that might bother you because in the end, a real BFF is
someone who you can have fun with together!