It's normal to feel nervous and maybe embarrassed at a gynecologist visit—we're not really used to baring our private anatomy like that! But remember, the doctor has done this hundreds—maybe thousands—of times before. To her or him, it's like looking at your tonsils. So try to relax about that.

Here are some ways to make your gynecologist visit more comfortable.

Be picky about who you see

You can go to whomever you want for your gynecologist visit (within the limits of your insurance plan, if you use one). If you get a referral from someone, ask that person if the doctor is easy to talk to that's important. You might prefer to see a male or female doctor—it's your choice. More important than gender is how you feel with the person—male or female. After meeting the doctor, if you feel uncomfortable for any reason and want to leave—that's totally your right.

Ask about having a nurse present during the gynecologist visit

When you make your appointment, find out if that doctor always, usually, or never has a nurse present for the gynecologist visit. This may help you decide if you want to bring someone with you.

Bring a pal

It's nice to have the support of another person when you have to deal with a new experience. A first pelvic exam is a good example. Maybe you'd like to go with your mom. If she can't make it, ask an older sister, aunt, other female relative, or a friend. They can be in the room for the exam or when you talk with the doctor or both. But the decision to bring someone is totally up to you.

Speak up

When you call for your appointment, tell the person who sets it up that this is your first gynecologist visit. Ask if you could have a longer appointment than usual so the doctor will have time to talk to you and answer your questions.

Talk about it

If you feel nervous about this exam, talk to someone who's been through it—like an older sister, you mother, female relative, or female friend. Just talking about how you feel may ease your anxiety.