Dear BeingGirl Experts,

My best friend and I just recently got in a huge fight. The reason for the fight was that one day my best friend was hanging out with this other girl. Now I don't care who she is friends with. So then at lunch, she and I have this thing where I grab a milk for her, and she saves me a spot and then that day the other girl did that so I didn't get to. So then I saved her a spot and she completely ignored me!!

I cried as soon as I got home and for the next two days. Anyway, we talked it over, and she told me that she didn't mean to hurt me that bad but only was doing it because she said I do the same to her. So then she said, "Well, do you think our friendship is fading?" And those words stuck with me and still do now way after the fight.

How can I make sure our friendship isn't fading? What can I do to save it?

Lea

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Dear Lea,

As you grow and change, your relationships will too. Not all friendships are going to last forever and some may not last long at all.

Friendships go through different phases too. This friendship doesn’t seem to be lost, but is changing, and it can change again. By the two of you talking things over, you showed one another you are friends and have respect for one another.

You do need to get involved in activities you enjoy. You'll meet others who share your interests and you'll be having fun. You'll make new friends while you are working towards a common goal.

Good luck,

Your BeingGirl Experts