Getting Along With Parents
Dear BeingGirl Experts, My parents are really ticking me off, and my best friend feels the same way! We want to know how we can resolve our "issues" without blowing up at them sometimes —we just want to get in their faces and scream at them. When we were younger, we never really did this. Why is it that we almost hate our parents? Please help. Harper --- Dear Harper, As you are learning being a teen is fun and difficult. Being the parent of a teen is fun and difficult, too. Your parents dislike the fights and difficult times just like you do. You’ll probably bring a smile to your parents face when you let them know you want to get along. Some ideas you may find helpful when dealing with your parents include: Avoid starting sentences with, "Everyone else..." Your parents care about what's best for YOU. Be agreeable when possible. Look for opportunities to say, "That's true," or, "Good idea," or "I see what you mean." Give occasional compliments. Even "That looks nice," or "That was a great meal," can lift a mood and mean a lot to your parents. Be as responsible as you can be. When you act like an adult, this will likely help your parents see you the way you want to be seen. Finally, don't always try to have the last word. It is not easy to change patterns, but it is possible.
When a situation with your parents or anyone for that matter is escalating, try to remember the acronym, H-A-L-T. Don't have a heavy conversation when either of you are H (hungry), A (angry), L (lonely), or T (tired). Perhaps you and your parents can agree to this before getting into a disagreement. Hope this is helpful,
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