Friends With Benefits Dear BeingGirl Experts, What is your opinion on "friends with benefits"? I think you should address that on the website because a lot of girls are experiencing it (or already have). Evie --- Dear Evie , If you are looking for a relationship with a guy, friends with benefits is not the way to achieve this. If you start fooling around together before developing an emotional bond, you are not likely to ever end up being more than just a convenience to him. The relationship becomes all about the physical, and there is never an opportunity to really talk and get close. Lots of girls get hurt this way. They think this is a way to get close with a guy, but it isn't. Girls usually end up having feelings for a guy they are being intimate with. Guys, however, don't always feel so personally involved with the girl they are being physical with. This is a hard lesson to learn in the end, the girl often ends up feeling used and hurt. Ask anyone who has tried this kind of arrangement, and they will probably agree. If you want to be more than just a pit stop, first spend some time getting to know this guy better and developing a long-term, committed relationship. If he is not willing to do this, then he is not the right person to be having intimate relations with! Hope this helps, Your Beinggirl Experts Questions about friends with benefits? Get answers and helpful advice at BeingGirl.com.