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Added December 27, 2011

UnCool: The Book About Fitting in at School

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Maybe you aren't great at fitting in at school (whatever that means). Maybe you can count your friends on one hand. Maybe the people you do hang out with are more "out" than "in." So?

 

It's cool to be uncool. All it means is that you don't fit the mold. You don't adhere to the status quo. You're unique, quirky, interesting. Different.

 

Maybe you like to read poetry, make art, or build weird stuff that flies. Maybe you're a budding fashion designer or bass player or marine biologist. Maybe you're still figuring out exactly who you are and who you want to be. But you know this: You'd rather be considered a little bit of a misfit than exactly like everyone else fitting in at school. Still, there's no denying that not fitting in at school can sometimes be a real pain in the neck. Choosing to be authentically you, quirks and all, isn't always the prettiest or simplest path. That's where the book, Uncool, comes in handy.

 

With Uncool, you'll ponder the social world around you, learn the all-important Rules of Misfitness, and gain a better understanding of your arch nemesis. You'll also get pointers on how to refine your fashion aesthetic and how to handle frenemies. You'll learn to align yourself with fellow free thinkers and how to figure out where you feel comfortable fitting in at school.

 

You'll be guided through the sucky parts of being socially on the fringe, and find out how great it is to be awesomely, independently, absolutely yourself. Along the way, you might even realize you're more uncool than you thought. Which, of course, only makes you that much cooler. Here's an example of the tips and tricks you'll learn to about fitting in at school:

 

A few of The Unrules

  • Be kind to your fellow misfits.
  • Believe that black is a color suitable for any occasion, worthy even of being added to the rainbow.
  • Think. Be. Think and be different.
  • Throw caution to the wind. Take chances with fashion, hobbies, hopes, and dreams.
  • Be okay with wearing things that your mother, grandmother, or old neighbor thinks are ugly.
  • Don't be afraid to look weird.
  • Write a blog. Make a documentary film. Publish a magazine. Learn the accordion. Build a radio-controlled blimp. Express your individuality in a healthy, creative way.

 

Of course, it goes without saying that the only real hard and fast rule of not fitting in at school is that there are no real hard and fast rules of misfitness. In other words, as a misfit you're free to chuck what you like. You can toss this entire list and make up your own. Or just weed through it, adding and editing as you please. For more, check out Uncool.

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starMrs.Gonzalez
starMrs.Gonzalez
Posted May 06, 2013
that's cool
evansanna1
evansanna1
Posted April 01, 2013
There are to many cruel hateful kids in schools today. We need to do something about it.
arob
arob
Posted February 25, 2013
Back in middle school, i was unpopular. I wasnt pretty, i was weird, i was too skinny for anyones liking, and I tried too hard to fit in. Now, I go to a tiny catholic high school. We are all friends, so there really is no popular or unpopular, but there is people who tend to show that more people are attracted to them more than friends with them. I happen to be one of the people that guys tend to love. This isn't from my experience, it's just all my friends tell me that. I learned that people choose you for how you look. If you look appealing, they put you to a test to see how you act. I matured so much since middle school, and I noticed how people haven't changed at all. I happen to pick my friends by their personality and not by their looks. It's just strange to me, how so many articles say to be yourself, but have you ever realized that at one point, you tried so hard to be the people staring back at you and judging you. just to be someone you're not
AlohaGal
AlohaGal
Posted March 18, 2013
@Emikinz:D, hi there! I just wanted to let you know that tons of girls go through the exact same thing that you are going through, and if not the exact same, most girls have experienced similar things. I just wanted to let you know that you are definitely not alone :) Also, please know that eventually, you will be out of school and will be away from the bullies, and for now, the best thing you can possibly do is go to an adult or a counselor that you trust. They will help you immensely, trust me on this one! They will make school not as dreaded anymore and having someone to talk to is always nice. And just keep in mind, you have a long full life ahead of you and eventually everything you are going through right now will be so far away and these experiences will have helped you to grow as a person. Please don't give up hope, there is so much worth fighting for and everything will work itself out, it always does, I promise :) Sincerely, AlohaGal
Emkinz:D
Emkinz:D
Posted March 05, 2013
I feel like my life's 100% over... the puzzle pieces are fitting together. All my life, #1, my parents put things in my food, #2, I've always felt different, slow, and moody, #3, every year I get uglier and slower, #4, it seems like I lose friends 24/7, and #5, my parents talk about ADHD. Not to mention we move like mad. I can't do it, not anymore. Even worse, I've puked this past week, don't wanna go to school, it's sad.
Kiki99
Kiki99
Posted March 18, 2013
I also move sooo much, ---but I'm okay with it. I've got friends here and there, and we still keep in touch-- but in this school i don't have ANY good loyal friends. all the girls in my school have tree categories: dumb and popular ; middle of the line and unnoticeable ; (and me)Smarty pants that everyone hates with a passion.
AFRICANpink
AFRICANpink
Posted December 20, 2012
Being popular is nothing, yes i'm not that popular in school but i like the way i am.And i don't care because everyone is special one way or the other.
123GymnastGirl
123GymnastGirl
Posted October 29, 2012
I think I will have to get used to being less popular. In elementary school I was pretty in the loop but now... a lot of people ignore me, I'm not considered "cool", and I never get any word about the drama. It really stinks, cause now my BFF would gladly pick some popular girl over me.
Kiki99
Kiki99
Posted February 17, 2013
I recently switched schools. In my new school, all the girls are nice to me, but i always am around boys. Because of this I guess you can say, "I'm in". The problem is that the girls don't like me because I'm different. during recess i don't go out and play-- I stay inside and read. My teachers respect me (and all the boys:) and that's all I care about. I've got a few BEST friends, but they are all still in my old school. "Say what you want, and do what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter, don't mind." ~Dr. Seuss
Kermit994
Kermit994
Posted December 09, 2012
:( I mean I talk to a lot but it always seems like I dont fit in anywhere! I never label myself or anything and when I try to fit in to a group its like I dont fit in and they ignore me
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