Hi, BeingGirl Experts,

I have a question that you may or may not be able to help me with. My mom is kind of strict with letting me go out. When my friends ask me to go somewhere I always lie to them because I am embarrassed about telling them that my mom won't let me go. I think the reason that my mom won't let me go places is because she's afraid that something is going to happen to me, or that she doesn't trust me.

Also I have three older sisters who had kids at the wrong time, and I think she thinks that I will do the same. I am afraid of telling her how I feel because she just might ignore me. How can I approach her and let her know that I am trustworthy and responsible enough to handle myself?

Thank you,

Lee

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Dear Lee,

You show you are trustworthy and responsible by how you handle your school and home responsibilities. Make a list of the positive things you do (you may have to start by actually improving what you do), and then talk with mom. This will begin to show her you are ready to accept responsibility for yourself.

When you are ready to talk to mom, ask her to set some private time aside for you. Offer to take her to lunch or go for a walk so you don’t have distractions at home. Ask mom to share with you what her concerns are. Share your concerns with your mom, and let her know you have learned from the mistakes your sisters made. You will find this will give you both the opportunity to listen and to share. Even if she doesn’t change her mind she will begin to see the mature young lady you are becoming.

Good luck,

Your BeingGirl Experts