Dear BeingGirl Experts,

Okay, my best friend just broke up with her boyfriend. He liked me at the beginning of the year. I was the one that got them together, and they had a "mutual agreement" to break up. My friend was pretty sad that they broke up because she really liked him, but it just wasn't working out.

Now he seems to be flirting with me more, and I'm not really telling him to back off. I feel like he's going to ask me out, but he and my friend just broke up! I really get the feeling he's not just wanting to flirt with me. He always sits by me on the bus, and he asked me the other day if I thought he was cute. I don't want to go out with him because that would be really messed up and my friend would be really sad. But in the back of my mind I seem to think I want to go out with him. Help!

Jill

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Dear Jill,

You need to consider how your friend will feel about this. Don’t assume she will be okay with you going out with her ex. She may not be. Having a face-to-face conversation with your friend is necessary. You need a real understanding of her feelings before you allow yourself to create any problems between the two of you. Face-to-face lets you hear her words and observe her body language. Both are important. When you have this conversation you need to be willing to let him go if she isn’t okay with it.

Usually, at your age, no guy is going to be in either of your lives as long as two of you are going to be in each other's lives! Make sure you and your friend continue to trust and care for each other.

Take care of your friendship,

Your BeingGirl Experts