BeingGirl Points - Major Bragging Rights

Close
Show everyone what a superstar you are by racking up BeingGirl points. The more active you are on the site—taking quizzes and polls, playing games, commenting on articles, and submitting questions to Ask the Experts—the more points you’ll earn.
Previous

Dating Friend's Ex

Next
  • ViewsIcon 7119
  • CommentIcon. 11
RatingStarIcon

Dear BeingGirl Experts,

Okay, my best friend just broke up with her boyfriend. He liked me at the beginning of the year. I was the one that got them together, and they had a "mutual agreement" to break up. My friend was pretty sad that they broke up because she really liked him, but it just wasn't working out.

 

Now he seems to be flirting with me more, and I'm not really telling him to back off. I feel like he's going to ask me out, but he and my friend just broke up! I really get the feeling he's not just wanting to flirt with me. He always sits by me on the bus, and he asked me the other day if I thought he was cute. I don't want to go out with him because that would be really messed up and my friend would be really sad. But in the back of my mind I seem to think I want to go out with him. Help!

 

Jill

---

Dear Jill,

You need to consider how your friend will feel about this. Don’t assume she will be okay with you going out with her ex. She may not be. Having a face-to-face conversation with your friend is necessary. You need a real understanding of her feelings before you allow yourself to create any problems between the two of you. Face-to-face lets you hear her words and observe her body language. Both are important. When you have this conversation you need to be willing to let him go if she isn’t okay with it.

 

Usually, at your age, no guy is going to be in either of your lives as long as two of you are going to be in each other's lives! Make sure you and your friend continue to trust and care for each other.

 

Take care of your friendship,

Your BeingGirl Experts

Close
 
 
Rate this:
11
comments so far
SuperCuteKitty
SuperCuteKitty
Posted June 07, 2014
Well, this situacion is very difficult. However, friends are first. Love is not only from a guy, but also from friends and family. <3
BeenThereDoneThat2
BeenThereDoneThat2
Posted April 06, 2014
Depends on what he does and if he rely is cut but if you think your friends might be hurt don't go for it
Brycelovr02
Brycelovr02
Posted February 15, 2014
Always ask ur BFFs about it. If it will make her upset then don't date him. Friends before guys always remember that!!!!! :)
CloeKhan
CloeKhan
Posted April 23, 2012
I'm having the same problem right now. But my friend and me talk about this boy a lot because i've been helping her through the break up. I really am afraid to tell her, because she's like a sister to me and she still likes him soooo much!... she admitted she loved him. though to me we dont know what love is i dont want to betray her. I'm planning on telling her when i get her through it. But still im not sure i dont want her to think i did it all for myself
Mrs.styles
Mrs.styles
Posted May 11, 2012
Just make sure it won't effect your realationship with your friend. Friends are always first.
meowsh4u
meowsh4u
Posted October 30, 2013
FRIEND CODE: -Friends before dudes -Friends before populars -Friends before problems (Me and my bff go by those rules lol)
krose
krose
Posted July 30, 2011
I talked to my best friend - at the time - about going out with the guy she used to really like. She even kissed him ! She said it was okay, but then, she changed her mind & said she didn't want me to get hurt. She doesn't like me talking to him either. I have a feeling he is going to ask me out soon. We're not best friends anymore, but we are good friends friends. What should I do? Should I talk to her again , or just let things go?
#1monkey
#1monkey
Posted November 11, 2011
in jills case it would bad idea to date this dude but in mine not realy see i like this guy for 2years and he liked me back and than my friend knew i liked him so one dated him than another and i liked him first and i told them when the first girl asked him out so now i date him and if he repects wht he siad tho them than we will have problems
sportsgirl5787
sportsgirl5787
Posted July 08, 2011
yea that sounds like my best freind
Brookalissss
Brookalissss
Posted January 10, 2012
Just ask your friend (: she might be cool with it ! Or she maybe upset , go with what your heart tells you , but at the end of the day the relationship with your best friend will probably be longer.x
bbblink

BeingGirl.com

close

In order to get the best possible experience using this website, we
recommend that you use Internet Explorer 7 or above. You may
download it here.